Does anyone suffer nostalgia?

[Buffyfan88]

So I'm a newbie..

The reason behind me joining was after I got into my 30's and having kids I realised I literally have no real friends left.

Does anyone else feel this happens?

Also I have extreme nostalgia, it's like my mind takes me back to when I was a kid myself I miss the tv, the music, everything!

Just a general chat, and wanting to say hello

I don't see it as suffering...I enjoy it! I sometimes go on a deliberate YouTube trip just to enjoy the bittersweet sensations of it.

The thing is...these old ads and music videos and TV shows weren't at all accessible once. My kids are 12 and 16 and the 16 year old is already feeling nostalgia for shows she watched when she was 5 ...because she can look them up. I was born in the 70s and never had that chance.

Suffer? No, not at all. It can be good.

I’m really interested in the use of ‘suffer’, is this as it’s what you retreat into to gain comfort of some kind? If so I’m with you! YouTube can be my savior sometimes- and has been a frequent ‘crutch’ in these times.
With some eating issues - I won’t use disorder they say you eat your feelings; I guess I’m watching mine.

I have nostalgia for the good old days before Covid

Yes!

I was very lucky that my mum kept all of my old toys and now my girls have them all.

They LOVE my all of the vintage barbies and all of my Victorian themed playmobil and playmobil house (90s & early 00's)
Toys aren't the same anymore.

We've been watching the old version of the worst witch on YouTube this week too

I miss being young and pretty and men giving me the time of day.

Yes I often feel very nostalgic and think back to my mid teenage years and the friends I had at that point.
I miss them and how much fun we had in those days. I have tried reconnecting with a couple of them and it didn't work.
I am in my early 30s and have 2 young DC. Have very few friends from pre-DC days. I don't mind too much though as I find it much easier and more enjoyable to socialise with other families with kids - who help keep mine entertained. Locally, ideally.

Yep, uni student days (the early party days, later on they all went on gaps in their studying and I was left with no friends)

My gap year before was fun though, with the friends I have to this day, having lots of energy, looking very youthful, not feeling knackered of a night out come 11pm.

Probably looking at it through tinted glasses but it is nice sometimes. Just being carefree and spontaneous with everything ahead of you.

How many kids do you have?

Yes! I miss old friends, home & my home town. I haven’t lived in such a nice place or known such great people since I left.
Everyone is scattered around the world now.
Life was lovely.

I feel really nostalgic for my childhood and teens. Bloody loved secondary school and had awesome friends and just a fun life. These days, due to DH job I have a kind of peripatetic and international lifestyle that I could never have imagined and I dont like that much. I sometimes yearn for the stability of my childhood, the fact I never changed schools and only moved house once. I miss the tv shows, and the general lack of decision making required of me!! I hear you op!

@DenimDrift

How many kids do you have?

I have two

@PajamasnoDramas

I’m really interested in the use of ‘suffer’, is this as it’s what you retreat into to gain comfort of some kind? If so I’m with you! YouTube can be my savior sometimes- and has been a frequent ‘crutch’ in these times. With some eating issues - I won’t use disorder they say you eat your feelings; I guess I’m watching mine.

That's exactly it. When I feel rubbish, stressed, anxious I fire on old 90's tv and feel instantly better.

For those who also commented on the word suffer, I think it's because of many people have often told me 'ach stop living in the past!'

Even the music was better!

@FortunesFave

I don't see it as suffering...I enjoy it! I sometimes go on a deliberate YouTube trip just to enjoy the bittersweet sensations of it.

The thing is...these old ads and music videos and TV shows weren't at all accessible once. My kids are 12 and 16 and the 16 year old is already feeling nostalgia for shows she watched when she was 5 ...because she can look them up. I was born in the 70s and never had that chance.

Interesting your 16yo is nostalgic already! I wonder when mine will become nostalgic. I have one 9 year old who hates cartoons already, god I remember waking at 7am to run down stairs and enjoy kids tv until I was a teen!

I often look things up on YouTube and show the kids what I used to watch their age. Can imagine the faces they pull at how 'ancient' it is

I once paid a passing visit to a place we’d been on holiday to when my youngest was small. And I experienced a wave of nostalgia that was so powerful that I ended up in tears. I’ve never felt anything like it. It was as if I had a profound grief for the little boy my son was, for us as fresh-faced parents, for myself as a younger woman who didn’t know anything about what was to come. Honestly, it was like the start of a novel or something. Properly physical, too.

I hope I never suffer that sort of nostalgia again - what a state!

I found this article below to be an interesting read. I feel most is true for me. My life was so much easier decades ago. I’ve since lost both parents, and have chronic health condition which restricts what I can do. Hankering back to happier times and places can give me some cheer when feeling a bit on the down side.

www.elitedaily.com/life/science-behind-nostalgia-love-much/673184

Hi, OP, I'm the most nostalgic person ever, and yes "suffer" can be the appropriate word!

I do hanker after my childhood in the 70's and teenage years in the 80's. And everything was easier and so much better then, especially the music!

I wonder if in a few years we'll look back on the 2010's with fondness? We certainly won't miss 2020 though.