Would You Just Invite Your DSs Just Turned 18yo GF to Stay for Lockdown

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Without thinking of or wanting to speak to the GFs family she lives with

Or would you want to check with the parents they lived with first?especially if they don't know you & the relationship is fairly new at about 6 months. & would there be circumstances that would make you do this without wanting to ask the other parents, & what would that be, or would you just never think to ask parents if they are okay with it at all at this age in the first place. DD still in college for A levels

Not wanting to drip feed, but I'm trying to gauge an average reaction to this situation & don't want to sway anyone with more information that might alter results. I will explain more later

TIA

No. No way. You could be stuck with jer for ages, depending on how things pan out.

Goodness no ! She’s still at school . I think they’ll survive in their own homes for a month .

To be honest, I wouldn't ask an 18 year old boyfriend or girlfriend to stay for lock down at all. I think having them move in for a month (at the moment!) is too much and too soon for a relatively new relationship.
If my DD was doing A Levels, I am not sure whether I would expect the BF's parents to consult me or not!! I imagine DD would say to them something like she would have to check with mum first, and it would be done that way. Fwiw, I had no issue with my 17/18 year old DD staying over at her BF's, but I wouldn't want her staying there for a month as I doubt very much school work would have been done!

No

Has somebody invited your daughter? I think it's a crazy idea because the chances are the family will get fed up of having an extra person there and the couple will end up falling out.

Thank you. The DD is mine, we don't seem to have any say in the matter as DD has decided. There's no need to stay for a month at all, as the bubble thing will mean they can still see each other & stay occasionally as is normal for the.

I'm just shocked the BFs DPs have asked her to stay without at least wanting to talk to us first & as you say it's such a huge amount of pressure at this age & a pandemic too & no matter how much DD says the BF inspires her to get her college work done & vice versa.

She also has significant, if invisible health problems that need ongoing treatment to stop her becoming very ill p, MH problems & is in the higher risk if she gets Covid group & she is undiagnosed Aspergers. Our GP is backing a re referral at DDs request & agrees, DD also scores highly on the AQ test, but whether or not she wants the diagnosis has become a bit of a stick to beat us, mainly me with, plus lockdown, so we haven't been able to get any further.

We have no idea if the BFs family

Just feel numb & I've no idea what to do

Sorry, was meant to say... we have no idea if the boyfriend's family know anything of her disability & need for treatment

I would be speaking to the parents and stating that DD is very vulnerable emotionally, physically and mentally...

How it isn't appropriate for DD to be living with a boyfriend whilst she is still at school and in the midst of various health appointments and assessments!

Of course not. You have to be tough, explain to your DD that it is just not appropriate and she cannot stay with the BF. Of course you have 'a say in the matter', your DD may technically be an adult but she is still in full time education, she can hardly support herself can she?