Have you ever just walked out

[RainbowsAndFrogs]

Just started walking don't even know where I'm going..absolutely had enough. If its not my kids fighting it's my husband and kids arguing. Two oldest kids at each others throats tonight I just can't hack it any more. My house (and I can only afford a small 3 bed with 4 kids) is like a war zone. Husband is less than useful and its just always some kind of battle between 2 or more people, be that the kids or them and husband. I've just grabbed my coat and startd walking.
I live in a little village e and nearest family are an hour walk away not that I'm allowed to see them. I'm sure I'll end up back at home but honestly can't think of anywhere I'd rather be.
Always trying my best and to keep the peace but what's the point

It sounds like getting out for a break was a good plan.

Dh home from work as they've had 2 positive covid cases and he has literally set on the sofa all day bedside taking a letter to post office and putting a pizza in the oven. While I've been working from home, entertaining kids left right and center, walking the dog and doing the housework. Not a martyr at all I've asked if he's going to help out and apparently he is 🤷🏻‍♀️

Asking and getting a positive response is not enough.
You need to make a list of what has to be done/what you need to be done and agree on who is doing what, when.
It's "man management" ;-)
Also, how old are your children? Anyone over the age of 2, in my house, would get a very clear message on what is expected of them, too.

12,10,8 and 4. Im just tired. Feel like I'm forever dealing with arguments. I take piggott /screen time etc, get them to do jobs, but they just go back to being the same

I get it, I told my DD I just wanted to leave yesterday because I just can’t stand the endless bickering and I can’t face the endless tide of mess in the house .... it’s exhausting

But what struck me is your comment that you aren’t allowed to see your family - what’s wrong?

Well I can go for walks with them, but I can't nip round for a coffee, as its illegal. And they can't come here. I also can't pop to a friends.

I hear you. Tier 3, trying to WFH, no help with childcare, this has been a very long half term 😒

I feel for you. This half term has tipped me over the sodding edge what with everything else that has happened this year. Take some time to just walk and breath! Removing yourself from an intensely shit situation if even only temporary is good. It might make the children (well the older two) think about their actions. I could have written your post. The sensory overload today has been too much

Thank you. Just walking and writing it out has helped. Good to know I'm not alone but I'm sorry for those of you that are struggling too.

Pleased to hear the walk has helped a bit. I did the same thing the other day. Couldn’t cope with everyone fighting anymore and their laziness! So I walked out and just walked around for about half an hour to calm myself down.

I came in from work once after a 12 hour shift to absolute carnage. No clean pots, kids running round naked, potty full to the brim. I walked out and ate sandwich for my tea crying in asda carpark 🥺 it never happened again. I feel your pain x

I did once, aeons ago.
Dds were maybe 10 and 13, though TBH I can’t remember now. They were driving me to distraction with their noise, yelling and sort of play fighting, which then wound the dog up, endless excited barking.

Despite my repeated pleas to keep it down, they just would not.

As so often then, dh was away for work at the time. I didn’t care - I took off in the car and drove 2 hours to a friend I hadn’t seen for ages. (This was well before mobile phones.). When she opened the door I said, ‘I’ve run away from my children.’ 😈
We had a brilliant evening, plenty of 🍷and I stayed the night.

Must have been a major shock for dds because they never did anything like that again.

I still have absolutely no regrets. Elder dd has since told me that as a child she enjoyed seeing how far she could go with annoying me, before I’d snap.

I feel you OP. Mine were already whinging at 7.15am (woke me up at 5.30) so I am currently sat in drizzling rain in the park letting them run around in water proofs

Sometimes you just need a walk, don't worry about it. Talk to him about helping more. He shouldn't have gone to the post office if he's isolating, but there are plenty of things he could help out with, without having to leave the house.

But yeah don't worry - I have walked out in the past, saying I need to clear my head before I say something I might regret. I'm always calmer when I get back home again :).

Before Lockdown i once had had absolutely enough of everythig and everyone, felt like a doormat, sick of being everyones slave etc.

So i walked out after grabbing some essentials, turned my phone off and checked into a local country house hotel. Sent a text to my youngest saying i was fine, safe but needed to be away from everyone and he shouldn't worry I will be back tomorrow.

Then I had a lovely bubble bath, sat in the big fluffy robe on the lovely bed and ordered room service and some wine and watched TV (It was the live conservative party leadership contest I seem to remember 😁). Slept really badly though as started to feel terrible guilt at about 1am.

Everyone was super nice to me when i got home, which was lovely, didn't last very long though.

He's not actually isolating as he wasn't in close contact but his work have closed so he's off till they open

@RainbowsAndFrogs

He's not actually isolating as he wasn't in close contact but his work have closed so he's off till they open

At the very least he should be entertaining the youngest until they are tired out and that's his job every bloody day you are earning money he needs to respect that.