A thread to moan about neighbours who don't merit a whole thread to themselves

[Clymene]

Here's my moan. Bin day is Thursday and it alternates between recycling and rubbish. Yesterday was recycling. In our recycling bins, we can put cans, glass, cartons, plastic trays and bottles. We cannot put in paper/card (separate container for that) or polystyrene.

My neighbours put their bin out and I could see some polystyrene sticking out the top and the bin men didn't take it. Any normal person would surely find out why their bin hadn't been taken and sort out the stuff that shouldn't have been in there, surely (well most people who have lived in the same area for as long as they have already know what the rules are but anyway). Not these people. What they did was pile even more stuff on top of the already full bin so now the lid doesn't shut and push it right out onto the pavement.

Tomorrow we are forecast 45mph winds and we live at the top of a hill.
I can predict exactly what is going to happen to the contents of their bin.

Why do you hate your neighbours today?

@CrisisManagement

Sam sodding Smith. On repeat. Every day. They have a lovely outdoor area that they, rightfully, use often, but cannot seem to go outside without having Sam Smith warbling in the background. I was kind of apathetic towards him previously. Now I can't even write his name without feeling tense and annoyed.

Ss is referred to as They. It’s simultaneously the most and least interesting thing about them.

We live in the corner, neighbours bordering the end of our garden/drive regularly have visitors who park their mobility scooters on my drive. So I come home and have to knock (I now just move them myself Into the road) before I can park in my drive. Asked them multiple times not to but they still do - probably assume I'm at work that day and they will be gone by the time I'm back. Grrr...

Same neighbour puts the odd bag of rubbish on our drive so it looks like we're just leaving rubbish out. There's a public bin literally opposite their house he could put it in, or you know use the bloody household waste wheelie bins for what they're for! Rubbish bags get thrown ripped into their back garden now, after again asking him to stop.

Neighbours to our right (terrace) big weed smokers and deal drugs. Been raided recently though so that seems to have stopped for a bit, thank God! Glad to be putting my house in the market soon!

In our old house we had a shared driveway with a very friendly but noisy and chaotic family. We also had shared rear access but the alleyway was often full of their junk. Sometimes it would take weeks to move. They also had a really exuberant and I’ll disciplined large dog which bounded around the whole time. But very very nice people, just a bit ott.

In this street I suspect we are the nightmare neighbours. Everyone else is 80+ or just quiet and reclusive, we have two exuberant small boys. Everyone is very nice and pleasant and apparently they ‘love hearing the children playing’ but I am unconvinced...

I love my neighbours but ever since the dad passed away a year ago they never stop asking for me to do stuff for them like I'm stepping in the place of their dad. (Never, ever, say, "If there's anything I can do, please let me know")

Mum and adult children aren't good at adulting are all, nor do they drive and will often send messages saying "Will you pick me up from the doctors at about 2pm?" (Yes, the pleases have dropped away now) or constant messages saying "Can I beg a favour?" Or "Are you busy?" Without actually saying what it is, expecting me to agree without being told first.
I have a list of pre prepared excuses now but it is very tiring. They way the houses are set up you can see I'm home and unless I keep my curtains drawn, you can see me sitting watching TV so "busy" or "I'm not in" excuses can't be used. Also "I'm not going out" must be used when true when possible as it's very obvious I'm driving away to get my sons or go to the shop.

I had the mum once phone in a panic as she had made an appointment (dentist) in another town in half an hour and claimed they couldn't get there. Begrudgingly I did take her but said no way could I pick her up. Not at all. Nuh uh. Nope. I would be busy and she'd need to get the bus or whatever.
You guessed it. Panicked phone calls, Snapchat's and messages begging me to come get her as she was stuck and couldn't get home. That day, for no reason other than another's lack or organisation or sheer laziness/entitlement I spent almost an hour and a half driving to and from the town 15 miles away.

They also don't seem to own any household items and almost weekly I'll get them asking to borrow the hoover or sometimes the iron or my furniture polish, some bleach or my food mixer. Last I checked I don't live in a commune.

I don't want to fall out. I really don't. I've been saying no as much as possible for a while now but they're not getting the hint and I absolutely don't want to end the friendship.

@Noidea2114

Tuesday is bin day. Every time they wait for DH to bring the bins in. Stand at the back door waiting. Grrrrr.

That's an easy one. Just do your own.

@ToothlessTiger but that isn't a friendship. Friendships involve give & take, you are doing all the giving here. When did they last do you a favour

They are really lovely people and buy our sons Christmas and birthday gifts and will happily watch our cat for us when we're away (he can't go to a cattery and we are of limited means so a cat sitter is also out of the question) which is really very helpful but yeah, the balance is way off. They don't mean to be like that but as I said, they're not good at adulting at all. I assume the dad did everything for the family and none ever learned how to run a household. They don't even realise they're being so cheeky. It's something I've seen a lot with some (not all) non drivers. They think popping out in a car is so easy and a quick 3 minute drive saving them a 15 minute walk makes perfect sense. Like if it's a storm, they will ask for a ride to the shop a few streets away because they don't want to get soaked (understandable) but don't realise that I also don't want to get soaked running to my car.

Oh dear you have got yourself into a pickle there @ToothlessTiger

I sure have. I'm sure it'll calm down once the main perpetrators, meaning the young adult kids who I assume don't know any better, leave home.
Until then I will do what I'm willing to do (like give a lift IF I happen to be going to the shop myself) and for the rest I'll keep using my list of excuses, gradually reducing the number of times I give a reason until it's just a 'no I can't.'

Mine decided in summer to take his conference calls outside on his terrace.Adding to the annoyance of an incessant whiny female voice with whom he had two to three hour long bitching calls ( didn't hear any work being done) he chain smokes .That , all summer long .He should be glad that he is still alive

@KihoBebiluPute

My neighbours are mostly great.

My little niggle is: one of them has the generally reasonable habit of settling their morning alarm on their phone to "vibrate" rather than a noise presumably to reduce the impact on others in the room. I think that they must then place their phone on a shelf which is attached to the shared wall between our two semi-detached houses because the vibration seems to then vibrate the wall right by my bed and wake me up. AT 6.15 ON A WEEKEND.

But obviously I can't say anything to them about it.

The walls aren't thin - we can't hear voices or normal household noise, there must just be something particularly amenable to transmitting that particular frequency of vibration in that particular spot.

Mention it! We had similar - they'd pushed their bedside table right against the wall. They pulled it away an inch and it didn't happen again

Ours have started spending a lot of time in the garage & it has a new power supply routed to it that he can’t seem to leave alone. No new cars so it’s not an electric car charging point.

They put their lights up for Christmas in the dark, up a ladder.

Ours smoke weed day and night when not working, which makes our living room stink. I have mentioned it to them, and asked politely if they'd do it outside or in another room. It stopped for a few weeks but it's started up again recently. I heard them moaning to their friends about us asking them to move rooms (they also have very loud voices). They didn't believe the smell would come through the walls and were saying how fussy we were being for mentioning it.
Err.. if the smell doesn't travel how come we know exactly when they're smoking that shit then?

My neighbours are lovely and I hate to moan but......
One of them smokes and all through the summer I could smell cigarette smoke in my garden. And I have the same with the bins, I regularly bring theirs in but they never bring mine in!!
But they’re so so lovely other than that!!!

Fireworks on the grass verge next to the road last night. terraced houses , 3 other neighbours out looking for cats.

My neighbour snores so loudly I can hear it through the wall. Stops me getting back to sleep after the toddler has woken me at 2am.

're rubbish in front gardens with our council you can report online and they send someone round, same with building/DIY noise, set hours something like 8 to 6 Mon-Fri, 8 to 12 Saturday nothing sunday/Bank Holidays. I've reported neighbours a couple of times and the council made them stick to prescribed hours.

@ToothlessTiger - start charging them taxi rates for petrol money and I think the favours will start drying up. They’re totally taking the piss.

Bins seem to always be a good one.

About three or four houses put their bins on the street in front of our house, because they all have their front gardens turned into parking spaces. This has resulted, on more than one occasion, in our bin not being collected because the binmen miss it.

For that matter, something I've commented on. With the size of houses on our road, every time someone gets the garden turned into parking, they take away an on-street space that everyone can use. Over the last four years that's half a dozen spaces gone, and I'm now typically forced to park my own car further away.

(And no, I can't do the same. One, rented property. Two, we're the poor saps with the street lamp in front of us.)

Because they are bloody lovely but they've sold their house and are moving

Our neighbour downstairs has bought a campervan and parks it in front of the flats - our living-room window overlooks the top of vehicle. He's a man in his early 70s and has a lodger. He bought the campervan with a windfall and spends his pension on 'entertaining ladies of the night' in there as he has no privacy indoors. These encounters are during the day and the campervan bounces about while he does the deed. I'm not a prude but it pisses me off and my grandchildren are curious. He's a runty little man and walks about as though he's God. 🤬🤬🤬

Mine can't park and I'm sure they hit our last car, the smell of their son's weed makes our bedroom stink in the summer, they have grandchildren that make enough noise to wake the dead and I never hear them tell them to be quieter. I could go on, perhaps I need my own thread?

Oh my @lifestooshort123. I can’t get the image of the runty camper van man out of my head! How awful.

I live in a lovely road with lovely neighbours. Next door has just become empty. After reading these, I live in dread.

@Bearplumapple my neighbours probably think I am obsessed with my leaf blower! I am out every weekend at this time of year. Once the brown bin gets emptied, the following weekend I fill it then once we've chucked some food waste bags in and weighted them down I go out the following weekend and fill it again before bin day. I love trees but I hate the ones over our garden with a passion. Every spring when the leaves start I just think every one of you bastards is going to fall in my garden. I've already filled about 6 bins worth and the trees aren't even bare yet!!