Really bizarre list but does anyone dearly miss childhood home after parents sold it

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I lived in my main childhood home from around 6 to 16, I was actually the one who encourage us to move due to space it was an ex council ect, however despite myself being in my early to mid 30's now I am incredibly and perpetually sad by the sale of our old house, I adore my parents and siblings current house but I really miss my home if anyone understands how I feel. I have suffered grief before and it is honestly how I feel, I have felt like this since a few months after the sale, almost regret

I bought my childhood home from my mum, still live here now, my kids sleep in my old childhood bedroom.

Not to ruin the thread but it’s not all it’s cracked up to be! We bought the house with the intention of it being our forever home, after my Dad bought it in the late 70’s as his first home before he’d even met my mum. It’s a big 3 bed mid terrace but because of where it is (commercial street, near a river) it was about 80k less than it would have been in another street with similar style properties.

Well, having had 2 kids while living here I can’t believe my parents never moved. The layout isn’t great, not much garden (doesn’t bother me in general but a bit more space during lockdown would have helped), our bedroom is massive but the kids one a really awkward size. The 3rd bedroom is a loft conversion, done by my parents and frankly they didn’t do a great job! Before we can use it as a bedroom we’ll need to do some major improvements. All things my mum has now told me used to drive her mad as well when my brother and I were kids but she forgot about once we left home!

We spent lockdown doing some work and will be putting it on the market in a few weeks time.

On the other hand my mum moved from Cornwall to marry my dad and still has lots of friends down there. Her childhood home was sold dozens of times since my grandparents had it but a friend of a friend of hers bought it a while ago, last time she was there she was able to go back and meet the new owners and see the house for the first time in almost 40 years. She’s still in contact with them. Recently they very kindly sent her the old nameplate from the house that my papa painted, she had it restored and mounted and now it sits in her garden.

I sometimes wonder if it's not just the house itself but the nostalgic feelings and memories of a time gone by. Our semi-detached childhood home was on a corner, no garage and had an awkward shaped garden which was massively overlooked. I didn't feel too sad to move though elder brother who had left home felt it more.

Grandma lived round the corner in a better detached house with a more private garden. The new owner who bought hers had a garage built sideways in the front garden which looks a little odd. I thought, "Oh, they've spoiled it," but I often think that I'd like to buy her house if only I could afford it. To me the sun always shone there.

I think fondly of my childhood home (and my grandparents’ homes), a childhood home can be such a big important part of childhood. I was recently upset to find that my high school had been demolished and a new one built. It was like part of my teenage years being erased.

Our then 16YO daughter encouraged us to move from our last house. She’d had some MH problems and hated being in the house, found it oppressive, needed a change. We moved.
We rented the old house out and after went round to do some decorating a year or so later. DD came with us, and said: “Why did we leave this house? I loved it!” 🤔😅

OP, I think it’s easy to look back with nostalgia and rose tinted specs. If you hadn’t moved house you’d have been annoyed and resentful, and finding the lack of space intolerable. It’s lovely that your parents took your feelings on board like that.

I think what I miss is the whole "home and family" package,my parents bought our family home 2 years before I was born and lived in it for the rest of their lives.It was sold after their deaths,and I did really miss it but have realised I feel much better now - the new owners have changed so much that while other houses in the road look just the same ours is completely different.
Which has helped me realise that they aren't still all there living a life I could drop back into!

I agree with the pp about nostalgic memories. My Gran lived in a bungalow and we had such happy Christmasses and holidays there, sleeping on the floor and perching on the ends of armchairs at the dinner table. There is no way anyone could have practically bought it or lived there when she moved to sheltered accommodation. My memories of it in the eighties are so lovely but being there in modern day as a grown up would not be the same.

I feel similarly about my grandparents house they bought it a few years before I was born, and still live in it now, I stayed there every weekend til recently and have already told them I would prefer to buy it to keep it in the family