How do I get my newborn to sleep in his next2me cot?

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Baby is 11 days old. I'm ebf and it's going v well. He's a dreamy little thing and I totally understand he's tiny, fourth trimester, it's natural that he's cluster feeding by night to maintain my milk supply etc

But at night he will only sleep on or right next to me. Guidance is pretty much all against co sleeping when so tiny, and he won't sleep in his next 2 me cot where I can still reach him, so DP has moved to spare room and I take him over night and stay up reading while baby feeds on and off and sleeps then DP takes him around 6am while I sleep until around 1, waking when he needs a feed.

Please can anyone help with how to get baby to sleep in the cot or of how long this goes on for? I miss sleeping at night and it would be nice to see my fiancé a little more!

Do you smoke, drink or take drugs? If not then you can co-sleep safely.

Look up the lullaby trust and Durham University sleep lab for more up to date guidance. The previous studies on co-sleeping essentially didn't distinguish between people who were mortal drunk/high/heavy smokers and those that weren't hence the high risk factors

Oh and i would second what PP are saying about just you co sleeping with baby, me snd DH have never done it together.

Another vote for the sleepyhead! We got ours cheap when mothercare went bust (RIP ) it was bloody brilliant. We put it in the next2me and DS slept like a... well, you know.

Swaddling definitely helped here the first 2 months. It stopped them startling awake and if you swaddle before last feed then they stay the same cosy warm when you transfer over. A large muslin works great to swaddle.

For me it was time. I always started the night in the cot and then if the wakeups were very frequent (30 minutes or less) I brought her in. One night she surprised me and did 2 hours. (one magical night 7 hours but that was a one off). So now she stays in her cot until about 3 or 4am when wakeups are frequent again and she sleeps with me. Honestly I never thought she would spend any time in her cot. I also side carred it (tutorials on YouTube) which make the 2 hourly wake ups after 4 months so easy to handle.

I took the advice here and we have been co sleeping for a few nights. Baby is much calmer and I'm getting more sleep. DP has moved to spare room and he takes baby from me first thing while I get more sleep. Hopefully it won't be forever but for now it's ok. Thanks everyone for advice, it was very much appreciated.