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Do you feel “Homesick” for your child?

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RosieLemonade · 26/10/2020 10:42

DD has gone away for two nights with her grandmother. Me and DH were meant to be going away but his annual leave got cancelled so we couldn’t.
I just feel sick with missing her. This happens semi often when we spend time apart. I’ve had amazing opportunities I’ve spoilt for myself when I’ve just wanted to come home and be with her. I just feel like I need to feel the weight of her in my arms. Anyone else get this? What can I do to get me through the next two days? It’s not even 11am on day one yet 😅

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skippetyskoo · 26/10/2020 10:48

I get quite anxious when my children are away from me and miss them very much. It’s like I almost can’t relax and don’t feel right.

RightOnTheEdge · 26/10/2020 10:53

Aw how old is she?
My dc don't stay away from me very often.
Usually when they do I enjoy the peace and it seems to go very quickly.

There has been the odd occasion though when I've felt like you when they are just at school and I can't wait to pick them up.

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RosieLemonade · 26/10/2020 10:59

She’s nearly 4. I think selfishly if I had been away on my planned activities I wouldn’t feel so much like this.

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StillMedusa · 26/10/2020 11:34

I do and my ds1 is 27!!!! But he's on the other side of the world..and thanks to Covid he is stuck there. It's 8 months since I last hugged him, and he missed his sister's wedding this weekend. He's happy there (with his Aussie fiance) but I know he's homesick to see us too.

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 26/10/2020 11:37

Yeah, I get the odd pang especially in relation to my younger two girls. However, I so rarely get any time away that I slap myself round the face and tell myself to enjoy it as it happens so infrequently!

TwoZeroTwoZero · 26/10/2020 11:38

No I love it when my dc have time away from me. A few months ago my mum took them to her caravan for a week. They had a whale of a time and I had a fab week doing absolutely nothing! This happens every year, sometimes twice a year.

PaperMonster · 26/10/2020 12:07

Yes. I really do miss mine! I have a couple of days to myself when she’s at school and I really need that, but I miss her a lot when she’s on a sleepover for example. Really missing her today - and I’m at work!!

ItsAlwaysSunnyOnMN · 26/10/2020 12:17

Yes

It’s very irritating being told lucky you you have time to yourself when ds is with his dad

I might like the odd night as I get no time to myself but more than two days I miss him terribly when it’s for over a week I physically ache for him

Todayissunny · 26/10/2020 12:23

It doesn't get better.... 15y.o. ds is away during the week and some weekends. He is at school 3.5 hours away and lives with a family when away. The missing him hurts physically. He is quite uncommunicative on the phone so I never really know if he is getting on ok.

Shinyletsbebadguys · 26/10/2020 12:24

Yes and the DC see their father overnight at weekends. We are all in general used to that but once a year he has them for a week (which is where they are now for half term ) and I hate it . Don't get me wrong time to clean and tidy up is great but I do it to distract myself from missing them.

4 years and that week still doesn't get easier. I did think after 24 /7 for nearly 3 months during lockdown and now I am temporarily a SAHM it would be different because in fairness I get loads of quality time with them so wouldn't feel the missing them issue as much. Nope. Exactly the same.

Dp is the same not that he admits it , he can't settle for the first 36 odd hours they are away.

Joeyandpacey · 26/10/2020 12:31

I feel like a limb is missing!

happymummy12345 · 26/10/2020 12:39

No I appreciate the break. We had years of never being able to have a break at all as we had no family to help out. However my dad lives a 20 minute walk from us now so it's great being able to have a break.

Ignoringequally · 26/10/2020 12:42

Mine are 7, 5 and nearly 2 and I’ve never been away from them for more than one night (and never from the toddler) so I have no idea how I’d feel!

Dollywilde · 26/10/2020 12:55

My DD is 10 weeks old today and a crap napper. Today, amazingly, she’s been napping since 11am. I just told DH that I miss her Confused Grin This thread is not reassuring me that this is just a newborn thing... eek!

anothergloriusmorning · 26/10/2020 14:26

It's not so much that I miss them- I do eventually of course- it's more that I get anxious, I worry something bad will happen to them.

reluctantbrit · 26/10/2020 15:51

No, I enjoy DD going away. She went with DH to see the grandparents one year and she is also a Scout with a very active activity schedule (obviously pre-Covid) and they do lots of overnight trips and camps, incl. a week in Summer each year.

She also went on school trips in Y5 and 6 plus two times a weeklong holiday on a riding camp without us.

I think it is good for her to learn to be independent, having fun and not just seeing her parents.

I do miss her in a way that I may think “oh, that would be something for DD to see/do” but in general I love the peace. It is even better if it is a Scout camp DH goes as well, he helps with some activities.

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