If you're an introvert..

[timothytoeseatenbyaghoul]

Could you happily live alone.forever?

I've been split up from my ex for over a year now and love it. I have children but once their needs are met I go to bed alone and get some time to myself (which I love) no ones following me to bed. I get the peace and quiet that I've longed for for so long

I've recently been seeing a lot of my ex (the children's father) as he's been helping me out with lifts and school runs since my car broke a few weeks ago and on the odd nights he's stayed here to help out with the kids and it's made it set in stone how much I just want to be on my own for the rest of my life.

I’m IN a relationship and have DS4 but should DP and I split, I won’t ever have another proper relationship again. I just want to be by myself (with DS obviously.) I love DP and don’t want to leave, but I could happily be by myself forever.

I could happily live alone and have done. I had my own apartment for a few years before I met DH. I miss it from time to time.

Yes

No actually. My DH and DCs don’t drain me like others do, being with them is fine. I actually hate being completely alone.

I'm a bit of an ambivert but I could totally live on my own. Have done so apart from my children for the last 4 years and it's one of the things that brings me such joy. I love love love being around other people and am very lively when in company but God I love the peace and quiet of being able to be inside my own head. Just had a weekend of pottering about doing my own thing and it's honestly such a delight! Not sure if I could compromise enough to be part of a "living together" couple ever again.

Yes, similar situation to you OP except seperated 3 years.....

I do not want social interaction once the children are in bed. Maybe I'll feel different once they are older and less demanding.

No but I would happily live with just DP and my children and not bother with friends. Me and DP are the same like that and if I need my space he gives me it too.

Yes.

Yes and I'd love to have your lifestyle.

Yup, definitely!

Would never rule out a relationship, but for various reasons it’s fairly unlikely to happen. But, even if it did, they would need to be independent too - no way would I want to live with someone else, I blooming cherish my own space!

Have always (half jokingly) described my perfect allusive partner as being: solvent, independent and having a job that allows them home for birthdays, Christmas and New Year 🤣

I wouldn't over analyze, but for sure some love to be social butterflies and go everywhere there is something happening, but others like me couldn't care less.

Am happy with my life and don't require a total committment from anyone in my circle.

But cannot do it now anyway. So I reckon the self sufficient will fare better from Covid restrictions in the end. If it ever ends!

No. I lived alone before moving in with my DP, and so did he. We are really good at giving one another space - often in the evenings after dinner he is in the spare room which he has a TV in, and I am in the living room, and we bring one another cups of tea etc, but mainly do our own thing.

Yes

I love living alone with dc. The only way I’d ever consider living with anyone again is in a massive house with separate master suites. And even then that’s be a push.

Yes definitely.

I could. I am married with 3 children and I love them all dearly but I do sometimes crave time alone.I'm very happy as I am, but if my circumstances changed and I foind myself alone I would be ok with that - I wouldn't be out hunting for anew partner.

Yes, absolutely. I can happily live without people, but I could never live without animals, and I can't live without at least 1 dog and 1 cat. A few years ago I had 3 dogs, 8 cats, 13 rats, 7 hamsters and 3 gerbils - all rescued!

My DH is always slightly offended that I say my perfect living arrangement would be two adjoining houses with some common areas for socialising and family time but basically separate spaces each. I’d be fine with him visiting for sex

In all seriousness, I have found 2020 and its everyone-here-all-the-time stifling. I am craving proper alone time - and not just ‘in a different room for a few hours’ alone time but ‘everyone NOT HERE’.

My DH, by contrast, needs company and attention and feels sad without it. He’s WFH, and not going out regularly socially or for fitness classes etc and so he’s seeking more connection from me at a time I feel like I can least give any.

Our needs are basically diametrically opposed. It’s a strain.

Yes. I love my own company and my own space!

Yes. I did for a bit in early 20s and loved it. I am a bit OCD though. DH is the only person in the world who doesnt really invade my personal space. But I enjoy the home even more when he travels. My kids are also terribly noisy and messy. I'm not complaining, i love them all dearly, just stating a fact in terms of a personal lifestyle preference.

You can still go out and socialise if you wanted to, but my home, my sanctuary.

Yes, although I do live with DH quite happily as he's pretty introverted as well and we quite happily spend hours at opposite ends of the house

I've never been alone for a long time but I think I could get used to it as long as I had a social life as well.

I have no idea how anyone copes with having other people living in the same house as them.

I love spending time with friends & family. But the idea of not being able to shut my front door & know I’m all on my own is really not good.

God yes. This year has been really hard on me as an introvert. (Married with child and we are both still working at home - no time to myself ever and it is so so hard). Lived by myself for 7 years and loved it.

Yes, easily. I find that being with people (anyone) is very draining and makes me anxious.