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So if Christmas is no mixing of households indoors

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RunBackwards · 25/10/2020 20:00

What will you do?

We usually have the four of us (two young adult sons) my parents and my sister and her family (two teens). TBH as the children have got older it's been hard enough to make the day special/different to any other day but if it's just the four of us I can't see it being much different to today.

What do you have planned?

Will you comply with the no mixing of households. It's already in play here, although my sister is in another area where it's not. My parents are being very compliant, although my FB feed suggests most of people aren't.

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roundtable · 26/10/2020 17:37

Aargh the pendant in me needs to get rid of the word worldwide in my reply!

FairfaxAikman · 26/10/2020 17:43

We'll probably have DH's parents over.

We've been mixing with them anyway as they do our informal childcare.
DH and I are both wfh so risk in minimal within our bubble.

PhilCornwall1 · 26/10/2020 17:46

@roundtable

Aargh the pendant in me needs to get rid of the word worldwide in my reply!

Yep

it's the same when people say "global" pandemic. I always think, why?

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roundtable · 26/10/2020 17:56

I'm adding to the cry for an edit button!

MissCalamity · 26/10/2020 18:02

We've formed a childcare support bubble with my parents, so we will be going there.

I've seen so many posts on Facebook over the weekend with people mixing with other households outside our tier 3 area,so fed up with abiding by the rules when everyone else seems to do what they want.

GlennRheeismyfavourite · 26/10/2020 18:07

I would not comply with that - we will be having Christmas with GPs regardless of the rules

stairway · 26/10/2020 18:10

No I wouldn’t be seeing my parents whatever the rules. I’ll be working in the hospital which is becoming full of covid again, it’s in my sons school now and probably around the shopping centre too. I wouldn’t want to risk their health as you can spread it before you become unwell.

Inkpaperstars · 26/10/2020 18:25

@MissCalamity

We've formed a childcare support bubble with my parents, so we will be going there.

It's interesting to me that so many people are just ignoring the rules. Why do you think it is? Maybe they are thinking that the current restrictions won't work, even if followed, and so they will end up in a full lockdown anyway? Ie they know we have to suppress the virus but think it is more other measures that are relevant to that. Or have they just not thought through the consequences of a massive rise in infection and so don't understand why we have to suppress it?

FireUnderpants · 26/10/2020 18:51

Fil is such a pain in the arse it would actually be cruel to MIL to leave her alone with him at Christmas. SIL has learning disabilities and no where else she could go, her and Pil hosting each other wouldn't happen. So we'll be an illegal 9 here.

Cannotcope4223 · 26/10/2020 18:58

We’ll be marrying on as normal mixing about 4 households in the countryside. No bloody way are we sacrificing any more time with loved ones when I don’t trust one BIT of data or research from this government. We also happen to live in a remote area of NI with consistently low cases. The threat of all our MH declining, our young people being alone and it possibly being one of my last christmases with my dad mean the rules will be totally ignored.

Cannotcope4223 · 26/10/2020 18:59

Carrying, even!!

1FootInTheRave · 26/10/2020 18:59

Likely to just be us.

I adore my lot but as Christmas goes, it'll be fairly boring and doesn't really feel there's much to celebrate tbh.

Feeling very very low about it all atm.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 26/10/2020 19:45

If you are alone with the little ones or just you and your partner then you are not actually alone are you? Sorry just ranting at page 1 already .

Twinkie01 · 26/10/2020 20:32

I'm Going out to dinner with DCs and DH. DS will be staying at her uni accommodation wit her boyfriend.

GenderApostate19 · 26/10/2020 20:41

We’ll be visiting DD and DGS on Christmas morning, they’ll also have her partner’s 2 kids there as it’s their turn this year so we’ll be breaking the rule of 6, big deal. I’m always there on a Friday afternoon when he gets back with his kids anyway as I take care of DGS in the week.
It’s slightly complicated in that we all live in different counties!

Inkpaperstars · 26/10/2020 21:16

Everyone thinks it's no big deal because it is just one day, or just one gathering of their family/friends, but if everyone does this on the same day, and cases were not really low beforehand, we are going to see a big spike in January. Which many people seem ok with so not much I or anyone else can do.

I do value Christmas Day, but I value more us being able to do more over the coming months and if we have to spend early 2021 fire fighting a big spike it's going to even worse than it needs to be.

GalaxyCookieCrumble · 27/10/2020 02:19

@Sertchgi123 or jog on you know nothing about me and quite frankly your opinion is irrelevant

Kokeshi123 · 27/10/2020 02:46

If the rules are as currently we’ll probably meet one set of GP on Xmas day for a forest or beach walk, presents then back to our own houses separately and the other set on Boxing Day for same.

Is staggering the two get-togethers what you would have done anyway, or is it about sticking to the letter of the law? Because I can't see how this is any better than everyone getting together at once, in terms of COVID risk.

Kokeshi123 · 27/10/2020 02:47

No, lockdown keeps going round and round because serco test and trace doesn’t work and only a small proportion of people isolate when they are identified as a contact (not helped by the fact the government expect those isolating to forgo any pay for that time). Until we get those two things sorted, this will keep happening. Regardless of whether or not healthy people break the rules by sitting in a house with 8 other healthy people.

This.

Bluewavescrashing · 27/10/2020 02:54

We were meant to be hosting my elderly parents but as I'm a teacher I won't want to put them at risk. We have already exchanged presents as they are a 3 hour drive away.

So just the 4 of us at home. Opening stockings, smoked salmon and scrambled eggs for breakfast. Opening main presents. Playing with toys. Roast dinner, crackers. Few glasses of wine for me. Dozing watching a festive film. Leftovers for tea.

Quiet Christmas. It won't be the same but it'll be fine.

PerveenMistry · 27/10/2020 02:58

@FredtheFerret

I'll be ignoring the rules. I am - apparently - safe to mix with around 1,000 secondary aged children every day, without masks or social distancing. Roughly 150 different ones in a classroom each day. And that's fine.

I have 4 young adult DC who don't live at home. Each and every one of them is welcome to come here for Christmas Day if they are off work and feel like it. Along with their live in partners. If I'm safe at work I'm not refusing to spend Christmas with my family.

Don't you worry about transmitting to them?

MercyBooth · 27/10/2020 03:07

THIS!!!

MrsFezziwig · 27/10/2020 22:03

Regardless of whether or not healthy people break the rules by sitting in a house with 8 other healthy people

Oh well, as long as you know they’re healthy there’s no issue.

beautifulnorth · 28/10/2020 08:51

Here's a question- if my immediate family and my parents all self isolated for the 2 weeks before Christmas, then risk would be low, no? I'm considering that but DH is thrilled we possibly don't need to host - we have my folks and his here every year

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