Anyone else with no family support and not because of location

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Bit of a ramble /rant. Just recent comments have got me thinking..
I hear a lot of people talking about how hard it is not being able do attend scans without dh (had to do this when pregnant as nobody to watch kids) now or not having any family support when they have a newborn etc. I also recently had an appointment with a hv who as part of a questionarre asked about what family support we have.
I have lots of family, parents are not young now but were early 60’s when I had my first. I have 3 dc and been a parent for 9 years. I’ve never, ever had any help whatsoever, even to the point where if I went to the bathroom I’d have to ask family to watch kids and even then they’d be reluctant. Pre-kids I actually bbsat quite a bit for older family member’s kids etc, if they were tired I’d call over and bring the kids out so they could rest etc, when my sil was ill I took care of her toddler, I thought this was normal ..
I did notice that my parents and other family never , ever offered. It’s very weird as my family talk about kids and family as the most important thing but don’t actually want to spend time with them beyond seeing them maybe twice a year for around an hour .
My mother for example has never been to a playground or walk with me and my kids and they live relatively close... My mother also hates impromptu visits so I’d never do that but also never invites us so I never know what to do tbh. I always find Christmas really hard as she doesn’t invite us but also I know she hates uninvited visitors. Despite this I get gushing texts about how much she misses us etc, in fact I think she is more than happy about lockdown...I just feel a bit crap tbh, it’s almost like we might as well kive abroad . And it’s not about babysitting as that is totally out of the question but it’s even just about spending time together, there’s just no interest there at all. Any efforts I have made in the past haven’t worked and despite saying how much they want to see us they clearly can’t wait to go after an hour..
Just got me thinking when plp were describing how tough it was why a new baby in lockdown with no family support etc that this has been me for all three of mine without covid..

That’s the case for many of us. My children range in age from 21 to 10. I’ve never had any family help. My sister lives on the other side of the work. Pil are both dead and my parents have zero interest. I’ve not seen or heard from my mum for over two years. Before that it was four years.

Yep same here. I laboured alone and was alone straight after the birth of my dc2 because we had no childcare apart from pre school so dh just came during those hours if he could, about an hour a day and I stayed in 1 week.
Dc1 I was single and so alone the whole time. Couldn't even get anyone to pick me up from hospital after and drove myself to hospital in labour.

I have laid on the bathroom floor while caring for the dc when im ill many times.
I'm alone in the parks etc where other mums have family and friends.
Its lonley.
Same as you my family love to post photos of how much they love dc and love doing this and that with them.... Yet they never do.

Yes, really relate do the being alone in the parks , always get a bit jealous when I see mums and daughters and their buggies out walking. I’ve never had that and never will