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Miss the early years

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purpleme12 · 23/10/2020 21:01

My child is 7
And I've found myself feeling like she doesn't need me anymore
And it's made me really sad and upset
I have been really missing the days when she'd just want to be with me all the time and we'd be together all the time and playing imaginary play together
I'm finding this really hard
I don't think she'll want to be that close with me again

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BackforGood · 24/10/2020 00:31

Of course she needs you.
She will also need you next year, and in 2 yrs time, and 7 yrs time and 10 yrs time and 17 yrs time.

What an odd thing to think!

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RosieLemonade · 24/10/2020 08:46

Have you not had any help or guidance from your parents since you were 7?

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soundsfishie · 24/10/2020 08:48

I don't think she'll want to be that close with me again

My DD is an adult and we have a closer relationship now than we ever did when she was a child.

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Whatthebloodyell · 24/10/2020 08:54

I get what you mean. My eldest child is 7 and I feel Our relationship changing. I feel closest to her now when we are talking about her interests And doing the things she enjoys. I think as they get older we have to make more of an effort to ‘know them’ and the things they enjoy in order to stay close to them.

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TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 24/10/2020 08:56

They never stop needing you.

Ds is nearly 27. Any problems and l’m the first one he comes to🙂

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movingagain20 · 24/10/2020 09:01

7 is my favourite age range. Still want to be with you, can have a conversation but they can fetch their own drink and wipe their own arse.

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grafittiartist · 24/10/2020 09:09

I know exactly what you mean- it just hit me later than 7.
Mine are teens, and still need me, but won't always allow me in- which I find really hard.
The relationship just has to change and evolve I guess.

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soundsfishie · 24/10/2020 10:59

I think as they get older we have to make more of an effort to ‘know them’ and the things they enjoy in order to stay close to them.

Well yes, effort is required. A lot of parents don't bother and then wonder why the relationship isn't as they envisaged it would be.

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Ginfordinner · 24/10/2020 13:40

DD needed me more at 14 than at 7.
You have obviously done a good job at bringing her up if she is becoming more independent.

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KylieKangaroo · 24/10/2020 14:24

Oh I can't wait for that stage! Grin

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purpleme12 · 24/10/2020 21:53

Thank you for the understanding comments.
I did love the early years as well and I think I was good at it
All my doubts are creeping in now
I don't know if people will think I'm stupid feeling like all of this

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purpleme12 · 24/10/2020 21:54

@Ginfordinner

DD needed me more at 14 than at 7.
You have obviously done a good job at bringing her up if she is becoming more independent.

Thank you I wonder if this is true
Sometimes I have tried to tell myself this might be true but at the minute it's hard to have that self belief
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Shieldingending · 24/10/2020 22:08

I honestly feel my almost teenager needs me so much right now, she asks me about so much and is very tuned into my feelings. So much so that if I've had a bad day she just knows! I too absolutely loved the early years but honestly there are advantages as they get older.

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