Am i being too sensitive

[Hopefulman]

My husband of over 25 years, was cheating me, now he stopped/ or so he says. This woman has a love child (not from my husband) who is 5 years old and they are both living in another country. this child- a female- is very attached to my husband. She calls him everyday, and he sends her gifts and cash several times per year. he will hide and send stuff for her. he said that he is very sorry for them and wants to help them- to the point that this child wants to come and spend time with him. The child would draw imagines of her mom, my husband and herself as her family. I am putting this out there as I dont think this is normal, but would like to have other perspectives. at times, i said to him, if you loved her so much, then go. At first, he hated us and wanted to go live with the mother and child, just to make them happy.
We have two daughters of our own, 20 and 17 years old.

No, you’re not being too sensitive. This is a constant reminder of him cheating on you, as well as a connection to the woman he cheated with. That poor wee girl too, she’s also innocent in it all and clearly has an attachment to your husband.

So true- and the mistress is shortsighted and thinks that she is doing the child a favour. But I believe as the child grows older and she begins to understand what is going on, I want to think that she will be hurt even more.
Thank you so much for your perspective- sometimes I think that I am not being righteous.

I'm sorry, I'd be damned if I'd be accepting his mistresses child coming and spending time with him at mine. . . that's just batshit.

That poor child is being used by her mother to keep your husband on her hook. And your husband is a fool.