Will this stage ever end?

[Wallywobbles]

So 2 teen DDs, with another teen DSD and a 12yo DSS. DSC are with us 50/50.

Girls all pretty presentable, tidy, organized and fit to take out in public.

DSS however lies on the table to eat - literally head in the plate. Every meal he has more round his mouth than should be possible.

He forgets his stuff all the time. Everything. School bag, stuff out of bag, ear phones, phone, train card, canteen card etc. Very very rarely are there consequences - not my circus - so I don't pick up the pieces as I think natural consequences should be applied.

Last week he tried to get on a train going the wrong way (never ever has he taken a train in that direction). Followed by his bus going the wrong way followed by the wrong bus. If the DDs hadn't been with him god knows where he'd have ended up.

Is this just who he is or will this stage eventually end? I've been his DSM since he was 5 - and while he does now wipe his own bum the rest is showing no progress.
To be honest this is currently the biggest issue in our marriage and I'm struggling with it.

How is his father address in these issues?

*addressing

He over empathizes with him so 95% of the time he picks up the pieces for him. At the end of this academic year the girls will all be at different schools. So he really needs to grow up.

Bump.

My dp is 32 and if his head wasn't attached to his body he would leave the house without out. Not saying that this is the case with your DSS.

@LST I fear that's exactly it. He's perfectly nice, easy going not too grumpy teenish, but lacks basic skills for getting through the day without help. He is properly dyslexic but far from stupid. Mostly I feel sorry for him as the only boy in a family of girls. And then I see him at table and see red. And yet his dad is opposite him and sees nothing.