How to tell friend enough is enough.

[chairtosofa]

I've been friends with someone since we were at school. Problem is she expects too much from me. I now have my own family and am very busy. How can I tell her I cannot run her errands etc and really get though to her?

I would just leave longer and longer between responses to these texts or not answer the phone - and if she queries tell her that you are too busy looking after your own family and running your own errands to be able to pay attention to your phone as well!

why should you be annoyed. that is intrusive, bordering on harassment.
you don't owe her anything. you have done nothing wrong.
how about just block her calls, messages.
there is no friendship to lose; just freedom to gain.

I think you have to say no to everything. Sometimes you say yes, sometimes no, so she asks about multiple things in the off chance you'll say yes. Tell her you have your own family, life and errands. If the penny still doesn't drop, write it in a letter, email or text so she can absorb it better. It doesn't matter how long you've been friends, a chancer is a chancer.

Don’t other replying to her text messages or even opening them, don’t take her phone calls.

Leave her hanging. Then whenever you do speak to her say no to every request. As she takes one yes as being a possibility for yes to other requests too.

Is this a balanced friendship? Or are you just convenient?

Just say no.

Do you have a history of doing these things for her? Otherwise why would she expect it?

Don't answer the phone when she calls, , don't reply to her texts. If she comes to the door say " Sorry, no time to chat because I'm very busy. I have a lot on my plate . " If the then asks a favour you say

"No. I can't do that. . I just told you, I have a lot on my plate. "

    Your mistake,is sometimes caving in to her demands.  What she learns from that is that she only has to keep on keeping on.

Mostly I say no but she still asks multiple times a day.

Just don't answer her. The penny should drop then.

Just tell her what you have said in your first post: you have your own family to tend to and cannot run her errands.

Stop responding or say no to everything. She’s dependent on you, you’re enabling her.

Is this on WhatsApp? Turn your read receipts and time last seen off and just stop replying.

Why even take time out of your day for that?

And if she nags you about that say you spend too much time on your phone so you only check it once a day now. By the time you've seen her messages they're irrelevant.

Why would you do any of those things for her? Just tell her you're not her servant.

I read stuff like this and just wonder to myself how people ever let things get to this stage.

Stop messaging back and when she bombards you with 5 million messages wait for her to cool off before sending ‘Sorry, I was really busy and a bit fed up of you constantly saying no to running your errands and doing you favours. It’s getting quite one sided and draining.’

You don't have to wait for her to understand or agree with you stopping doing those things.

Shes not a friend. She is a user.

Tell her to fuck off and phone a taxi.

Most taxi drivers might welcome the business.

Then block/delete her ass.

Does she live next door? Seems crazy. Is she asking multiple people or just you?

Maybe you could develop migraines that are set off my looking at phone screens too much, so therefore you stop answering

Use your words. Mainly the word ‘no’.

She's not your friend. Friends don't do this.

Does she have a partner who can help? What does she do for you?

All one sided and this would Lisa me off, but people reach a tipping point of entitlement and assume you're their paid help

You've reached your tipping point - she needs a wake up call and a harsh eeerrr fuck off ive got my own life I'm not your hired help mate

*lisa should say piss - but it would be funny if you or your leech are called lisa 😏

Actions speak (much) louder than words. Just say no, and mean it.

I can’t believe the barefaced cheek of some people! I can say, hand on heart, I have NEVER asked my friends to do anything like this for me!
How did this ‘friendship’ develop to this extent? What does she do for you in return?

@chairtosofa

Just curious has she got emotional/financial/mental problems?

Start asking her for favours multiple times a day. Then it might finally hit home to her!

[quote Butterfly3105]@chairtosofa

Just curious has she got emotional/financial/mental problems?[/quote]
I believe she may have at least 2 of these.