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will focus on my son make me forget the woman i love

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wassabe · 20/10/2020 19:43

I’m living with someone I’ve had a baby with after knowing her only a couple of months. It’s going ok, son 3 months now. But I can’t get my ex out of my head. We broke up a year before I met my current partner and I saw her recently in tescos, sounds insane I know but I have looked her up and she’s single, living back in our town again. I never forgot her. I don’t want to lose contact with my son but this relationship with my gf is only here because of him. In time will the focus on my son make me forget the woman I want to be with? I try and immerse myself in all of that and mostly it is easy to do as it’s all full on at the moment but in the back of my mind I am thinking of her. I would never do anything behind my gf’s back and she knows this is a trial between us, both of us know that. I am so confused. If I carry on will these feelings go? I’m trying to focus as much as I can on him.

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Lollypop701 · 20/10/2020 19:52

Do 23 months with new partner... 2 years from ex. Why did you split with ex? Would she even want you back? No your new partner wont make you forget anything. So let her go if you are hanging on to paradise lost. She deserves more . But you sound like you’re Disneying a past relationship.., it wasn’t perfect or it wouldn’t have ended. Why is the mother of your child not the one?

Lollypop701 · 20/10/2020 19:54

13 months!

MasksGlovesSoapScrubs · 20/10/2020 20:21

Erm no.
I'm sure if she wanted to be in contact she would have. Leave her be.
Also a 'trial'? Really. You don't show much respect for the mother of your child and I think that's disgusting. If you don't want to be with her leave. Ffs.

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MasksGlovesSoapScrubs · 20/10/2020 20:22

Oh and having a child is pretty 'full on' FYI.

T33l9 · 20/10/2020 20:26

"Living with someone I had a baby with"

Wow, you sound extremely detached from your girlfriend.

You don't need to be in a relationship to be a father to your child you know.

Why are you having a 'trial' relationship with your sons mother if you don't want to be with her?

Why are you getting people pregnant when you're noncommittal and hung up on an ex?

throwaway100000 · 20/10/2020 20:29

Ew. If I was your ex I would find it so unattractive that you’re here lusting after me, whilst you live with your new partner and have a baby together. You just don’t sound committed and it seems like your mugging your current partner off. Why the F would your ex want to be with a man like that? It’s shady/snaky behaviour and doesn’t suggest that you would treat your ex any differently if she took you back.

FallonCarringtonWannabe · 20/10/2020 20:31

Well, what a nob you sound.

I don’t want to lose contact with my son but this relationship with my gf is only here because of him.

Why would you not have contact with your son if your ended your relationship? Are you already planning on just being a disney / deadbeat dad??

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