About a year ago I broke up with someone I had been dating for 6 months. It turned out we had some mutual friends and grew up in the same area, for these reasons the relationship did progress quite quickly and we saw each other most weekends by month two. It was great however by month four I was feeling like it was all very much full on and intense...I asked to slow things down and he became paranoid I wanted to date others (I didn’t). When I asked for a week or so apart he would say things like he wouldn’t wait around and eventually he would move on. This is against a background of him being pretty wonderful to me, so I do believe his comments were because he didn’t want to lose me. In the end he would get annoyed if I didn’t want to meet on a weekend and would put pressure on things and when I wasn’t seeing him he would text almost every half hour even if I hadn’t replied. I really liked him but had to officially end it as it was impossible to get him to just take things any slower and I was living about two hours from him at the time, making it all feel even more pressurised!
After a few months we started speaking again on and off and it was nice. Then a few weeks ago we met up, both talked about starting things up again and I said that for my part I hadn’t been ready for a full on relationship then but things had changed for me I was living much closer now and work has calmed down since December last year. I was in a better place to dedicate time to the relationship. He seemed happy about this and we started seeing each other. However he has done a few things that I’ve found strange...we’ve arranged to speak in an evening and he’s not called, even if I’ve text to remind him...another time he said ‘i can speak now or later but not both...’ that was after I asked if he was free to speak one afternoon when I finished work early. We used to speak very freely so it seems like he’s making a point?!
Another time at his house he said he had new furniture arriving and told me what it was...I commented on the coffee table and said ‘isn’t this the one we got?’ To which he said he couldn’t remember but he didn’t like it and it was going. This was one we chose together...surprised if he doesn’t remember.
He has a nephew that we went to see when he was born after we had started dating. We travelled over together and it was a nice day. His nephew cane up in conversation and I said aw he was so cute (or something like that) and he was surprised and said to me I had never met him?! I said yes we went to see him remember? He said he wasn’t sure and couldn’t remember...
Maybe I’m being over the top here but he seems to be behaving in such a strange way. I don’t understand it. I had been sincere about wanting to start over with him but now I’m wondering if he’s playing some game?!