I do a sports activity with a group. Doing it 4 or 5 years. It is a mixed group of people. I'm not great in groups but I like this one, everyone is just friendly to each other.
1 member is a guy (call him Tom) who is in his very late 50's. He's popular in the group with all, tells stories about his family who he adores, travels etc. Chatty type who looks out for everyone and always helping someone
We have a social media group and people what's app etc..
Tom recently had an accident and went into hospital for a week. When he returned home last weekend he told the group via social media. Lots of messages of concern, sending get well messages, he answered them in his usual style. I sent one and he sent one back with lots of gory details about the accident with typical humour.
Yesterday I was out with the dog and saw him with his wife. I waved and asked how was he doing. I Said to his wife (who I've heard lots about but not met in person) if she was over the shock of the accident.
Today I get a message from Tom to say his wife had been bemused how I knew about the accident (I've not seen her before). She's been giving him hell since yesterday. He's asked that if I see him again when I'm out with the dog to walk off the other way and pretend I didn't see him.
Why do I feel guilty like a femme fatale????
This has made me feel uncomfy but I am not sure why... And a bit cross, and I don't know why.
Not sure what say back., except 'OK but that's weird.'