Mediums - yay or nay?

[Colycola]

I have been thinking about my nan a lot recently. She died just before I met my husband and I wanted her to know I am happy. I saw the Derren Brown film and was 1000% ok its fake but part of me even though I know deep down it’s probably fake, just wants a bit of reassurance because God I miss her. I hate that she died thinking I was unhappy as she used to get so upset about me struggling. I once met a random woman who seemed to know about my family which is why I do err sometimes on the side of thinking some of it is true, she never asked for money she just said x,y, z about me when I was sitting in a cafe at the age of 17 and walked away.
It’s fake isn’t it?

Nay

Nay, and yes it's fake.

It must be horrible for you to feel the way you do and I completely sympathise but people can not contact the dead.

Perhaps it might help to change your way of thinking, in order to give you closure on this?

Was your nan a particularly positive person? If so, she there's a good chance she died with the mindset of 'Colycola won't be struggling forever', or 'We never know what good things the future might hold'.

Fake, and preys on the vulnerable.

No she was so negative! She was always so upset and sad and ‘who will love you as a single parent’ as I had bought shame on the family in the weirdest old fashioned way. But she was lovely as well. It sounds weird like she was a right mean old mare but she used to worry.

Nay

@Colycola

No she was so negative! She was always so upset and sad and ‘who will love you as a single parent’ as I had bought shame on the family in the weirdest old fashioned way. But she was lovely as well. It sounds weird like she was a right mean old mare but she used to worry.

Ok well perhaps try to look at it like this.

If you believe in spirits, then it's not a great leap of your imagination to also believe they can see us.

If that's the case, then she'll already know.

Either way, I think the only solution is for you to make peace with this and that won't happen through someone who either pretends to be able to speak to the dead, or are deluded enough to truly believe it