I am not really asking for practical advice but more in terms of how other people in similar situations have adjusted their “mindset” to help deal with having to live next door to inconsiderate neighbours.
To keep it short, I live in a terrace house and these houses, as is common, have pretty poor sound insulation. I general people in my street are quite aware of this and are quite considerate. In fact I can’t even hear the neighbours on one side. But on my other side the neighbour plays REALLY loud music. It’s as though the sound system is in my house when she plays it and I can feel the vibrations from the bass. The only saving grace is that she does not play it late at night (if she did I think I would need to move). But it really upsets me for two reasons - firstly, because when she is playing her music I can’t use certain rooms in the house (could not work or relax with the volume of it, and dd has to do homework in the kitchen to escape it) and secondly, what upsets me is that this neighbour knows her music is really loud (I know other neighbours spoke to her in the past about it) and she clearly doesn’t care. By the way, we are very quiet - no music, no tv, no screaming children.
I am only going to be living next door to her for a year or so just need help with dealing with this on a mental level!