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Oh crikey what’s the etiquette here?

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Whatatoodoodle · 17/10/2020 13:40

DS is turning 12 over half term and we’d said he could have a few friends over for an evening in half term (will be less than 6 people in the house etc etc).
He wanted to invite his best friend from primary plus 2 new high school friends. I also asked him to invite another friend from primary who has been a bit left out of new high school friendships and he was happy to do this.

But now it turns out he’s left it too late and the 2 new friends can’t make the date.
They can do the day before but the old, left out friend can’t.

Now wishing I hadn’t asked him to invite the extra one! Do we have 2 separate gatherings or suck up the fact that the others can’t make it and stick to the original date?

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ReeseWitherfork · 17/10/2020 13:42

I’m going to say two separate! Why not eh, it’s a crap year and he’ll have limited numbers so stretch it out - explain to the parents why (i.e. those are the people he wanted to celebrate with but not everyone could make the same date).

VentventVENT · 18/10/2020 10:42

Is there not maybe a third date which will work for all?
Also (and I hate to be “that” person) if you go into tier 2 any indoor gathering isn’t allowed - not judging but maybe the other parents won’t agree to it.

PatchworkElmer · 18/10/2020 10:46

I’d do 2 separate I think.

ItWasntMyFault · 18/10/2020 10:48

I'd do two separate ones.

BobsyerUncleFannysyerAunt · 18/10/2020 10:52

Two separate celebrations. It's been a shit year, string it out as long as possible
It means two cakes too Grin, every cloud 'n all that

Smallsteps88 · 18/10/2020 10:52

2 separate visits.

ShandlersWig · 18/10/2020 10:54

3rd date or original date only.

You can't go for the dare the pushed out friend cant make!

And remember for next time, 'no good deed goes unpunished.

Elieza · 18/10/2020 10:57

Two dates. Two cakes.

Is one date his actual birthday and one a weekend date, as lots of people do that with a weekday birthday. I still do, spans it out longer! Can he invite some other friends both dates to get his full allocation of people re Covid? 🥳 🎂 🎈 🎁

NoSquirrels · 18/10/2020 10:59

2 separate. With 5 kids there, you can only have you in the house too so seems better to have less of them?

negomi90 · 18/10/2020 11:00

Original date and then a separate get together with the other 2 on the day they can do it.

Whatatoodoodle · 18/10/2020 16:10

2 separate it is. And yes if we go into tier 2 it will have to be cancelled or swapped to a park meet up instead

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