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Support package for vulnerable adult- any advice?

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CulturallyAppropriatedName · 16/10/2020 16:42

My (third) cousin is in his mid 20s. His mum died a few years ago and his dad is not around at all. My cousin is autistic and agoraphobic and very vulnerable. One of the few people he can speak to is my elderly mum (in her early 80s).

He cannot advocate for himself and still lives where his mum did, which is 300 miles from Mum. She keeps in email contact (he can't use phone). This morning he sent a highly distressed email and mum managed to contact local police for a welfare check. The police found him unkempt and in squalor and have removed him to hospital. They have said he cannot return to the house as it is unsafe. They have spoken to social care but the SEN social worker can't do anything til Monday as she doesn't work weekends (sigh).

The police are putting pressure on my elderly mum to drive 300 miles from a low risk to high risk covid area and back again, to collect my cousin and take him to her home. My cousin has expressed that if he has to stay somewhere he would like to go to Mum.

I think this is a dreadful idea, puts my mum in danger (I haven't seen her for months b/c of covid) and that my poor cousin should not be discharged from hospital until there is a proper care plan to maintain him in his local area. His LA have been dreadful throughout his life and support has been terribly lacking and my worry is that if Mum "rescues" him the council will continue to do fuck all.

Can we demand he stay in hospital until the social worker has had a chance to do a proper assessment and a proper discharge plan is in place?

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Mydogisagentleman · 16/10/2020 16:45

I would refuse to accept responsibility for him and hope that the hospital will have to keep him till Monday.
I would also try to contact mencap and my MP.
Very best wishes

CulturallyAppropriatedName · 16/10/2020 17:44

Thanks mydog
My cousin does not have learning needs. Just social and communication needs. Will he qualify for support from Mencap?

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Mydogisagentleman · 18/10/2020 11:03

Sorry, but late back.
I got the impression that he had a LD because of the SEN social worker.
I’d still be inclined to contact those who I entioned and PALS and possibly a hospital social worker

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pequini · 18/10/2020 11:12

No way should she take him on. He needs a proper support package and as soon as he's resident out of their area he's not their problem. They are absolutely trying to pass the problem on.

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