Due a baby and so depressed

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Conceived a couple of weeks before lockdown and was off from the end of March until September. Went back and promptly got signed off - medical suspension.

I really hated my job so I shouldn’t complain in a way but I am finding the days impossible to fill. OH works from home and it’s difficult to get any real space as he’s always on calls or team meetings (just to be clear here I am not being critical of this, it just means anything like say housework while listening to loud music which can be therapeutic is out.)

So my life literally involves sitting around the house. A trip to the supermarket is about as much change or stimulation as I get.

I’m so low. I’m really struggling to get through the days at the moment.

Can anybody help or make any suggestions? Please be kind

Can you wear headphones to listen to music while you do chores?

Podcasts on headphones!

Well yes but that’s not really the main thrust of the problem. It’s just no real space in the house but no real company either I suppose is what I mean.

I am feeling the same, it does not feel like s good time to be pregnant does it 😥 have you spoke to anyone about how you are feeling? How long until your due date?

Research solitary hobbies to do. Get crafting and make baby things. Do an online course to build your skill set for re-entering the working world in the future Xx

Online groups I found invaluable - I moved intercontinental so only knew my h and nobody else. Yes in person is good but they were very expensive there. I'm still friends with people I met through my local online mums group

Thanks, I’m looking into online groups. Expensive, though!

I haven’t spoken to anyone baa, tbh the antenna care has been patchy at best. I’m due in 4 weeks. So not long I know but honestly every day feels like forever at the moment.

Why can’t you get out and about? Walks, meet a friend. I’m due my second next month and we get out most days. I’m also working though, which breaks the week up.

Don't have any words of wisdom but a handhold from me. I couldn't imagine being pregnant and stuck at him my OH. I love him but I need my space in the day while he is at work!!

OP it sounds stupid but I also vote podcasts. Audio Books and podcasts really brightened my time over lockdown; my baby was born shortly before lockdown and it was lovely to put them on and get one with everything that needed doing.

Going for walks at 36 weeks pregnant isn’t a very enjoyable experience. I’m not a huge fan of walks anyway. I find them a bit dull.

Meeting friends is quite difficult when they are all working during the week and with own families at weekends. I’m the last to have a baby and no one is particularly interested now which does hurt a bit since I showed enthusiasm and excitement throughout their pregnancies but this happens. Plus we are in local lockdown.

Thanks cloudy I will look into that!

live I’m glad it’s not just me who finds it hard!

I think many women find the final month of pregnancy a bit of a drag, OP. Weighed down with a bump, pressure on the bladder, bored at home, you just want it over and to meet your baby.
Try to utilise these final weeks to do the things that will be difficult once the baby arrives. Enjoy a lengthy novel, a full night’s sleep, a soak in the bath, an uninterrupted chat with a friend, a whole cup of tea before it goes cold...!
When you are sleep deprived, exhausted and cluster feeding an insatiable baby who never seems to stop crying or filling nappies, you will look back on this present time with longing and nostalgia! Trust me.

I know how you feel as I had my first back in May during the original lock down, and was off work from March. I know its already been said, but really do make the most of being able to read, lie in, pop to the shops in a whim, get a haircut and cook long, complicated recipes if that's what you enjoy! As much as a love my little boy, I wish I'd made more of all the free time I used to have - I'm lucky to get a 10 minute shower these days.

I know bab I keep telling myself I should be appreciating it but I just don’t!

Yes I’m sure I will be complaining about cold cups of tea and no peace soon!