I think my granny’s dying

[whatsthestoryinbalamory]

My gran, she’s 90 ... she’s had Alzheimer’s for years and laterally cancer too .

Tonight my uncle has rung saying she’s in hospital, in a lot of pain and they don’t think they can help her . It’s a hernia . She needs surgery but she wouldn’t survive the anaesthetic .

I’ve worked in healthcare ... I recognise what they’re saying . My heart is breaking for my gran 🙁

If she could slip away peacefully, pain free, with my uncles beside her I can see that it might be the ‘best’ outcome but I don’t want to lose her .

So sorry to hear this op. My own mother is nearly ninety, very active at the moment. I am going to hate losing her when the time comes. There's never a right time to say goodbye is there. I hope you can take comfort in your uncles being with her at this time. I am sad tonight for a very old friend who died on Monday. She also had Alzheimer's and I know this destroyed her quality of life lately. My friend passed peacefully and I hope it is the same for your granny if it is her time. My best wishes to you.

@whatsthestoryinbalamory Have an unmumsnettty hug from me.

This is something I went through last year with my granny who was 85 and a shadow of her former self by the time she died.

I totally understand- my granny was tired of living, with a worn out body and wanted to go to my grandad who had passed 7 years before. I wanted her to stay and I still would give anything to have her back but before she became ill.

Are you able to see her or draw on the support of family op?

[quote Allmyarseandpeggymartin]@whatsthestoryinbalamory Have an unmumsnettty hug from me.

This is something I went through last year with my granny who was 85 and a shadow of her former self by the time she died.

I totally understand- my granny was tired of living, with a worn out body and wanted to go to my grandad who had passed 7 years before. I wanted her to stay and I still would give anything to have her back but before she became ill.

Are you able to see her or draw on the support of family op?[/quote]
Too far away at the moment, I’m further north and they’re central belt . I’d go tonight if I could but nowhere to stay and no idea what’s going to happen . And obviously can’t go into anyone’s house ...

I’m not even sure how I can go to her funeral, I’m a non car driver so I’d have to get a lift from someone to go down . I think my dad would drive up and take me down but not sure. It opens a horribly complex situation as both my mum and dad would wish to be involved - but they’re twenty years divorced and won’t stand in the same room as each other .

I’ve texted my aunt, but not sure who else knows yet. I haven’t told my dad as I’m not sure I should (he’s been NC with her for years) . I’m her eldest granddaughter by a long shot .

Who would have families eh !