What's the best piece of advice you've been given?

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Could be from anyone - a work colleague/parents/a friend/a partner/a health visitor/a stranger on the street. Mine came from a little old lady outside Sainsbury's who stopped to look at my baby son in his buggy when he was about 8 months old. I was tired and grouchy, and she said to me "the days are long but the years are short." I've never forgotten it.

What's the best piece of advice you've been given and who by?

Said by a very good boss

At work conduct yourself as though a potential big client is watching you

At home conduct yourself as though your much loved gran is watching you .

Clean like you are trying to get on the front page of our news letter.
( specialist cleaners that got a bonus if our work was featured in the news letter and higher if we got the much sought after front cover pic )

About 25 years ago I worked with someone who's mum had had a heart attack, and part of the follow up care was helping her to manage her stress levels. One of the things they told her to use was for every stressful situation, to ask yourself 'will this matter a year from now?'. For most things the answer is invariably no, and it's a test I use quite a lot when I'm getting wound up about something.

In a work context when I was in my first proper professional job I used to have a line manager whose favourite line was 'don't bring me problems bring me solutions'. I used to think he was just being a knob but as I've got older it's served me well when thinking about how to present an issue to someone more senior.

Oh and the Daily Mail test - if you're about to do something in work and you're unsure about it, think about how it would look on the front page of the Mail before you decide!

From my dad .. sadly long dead.. when I was weeping in the stairs about some or other boyfriend dumping me ...

If a man doesn't worship the ground you walk on.. fuck him off... it's all you ever need to know...

My DH worships the ground I walk on...

Two spring to mind.

One from my dad, what will it matter in ten years time? Most things I get wound up about will not matter in ten weeks time, so I let them go.

Second from a dear dear friend. There are two kinds of womanisers. There are those who just love women. And there are those that hate women. Never, ever get the two confused.

Only a fool breaks the two second rule.

Don't fight with pigs, you'll get dirty and they'll love it.

Don't rush to get married, get to 30 THEN start thinking about it.

Mind your drink, don't go anywhere with strange men.

If he's not good enough to bring home to meet dad and I, he's not good enough to go out with.

"The best way to stop worrying about what people think of you is to remember how seldom they do." (David Foster Wallace, oft-quoted by a good friend)

"If you have to force it, something's wrong" (My mother, about stuck drawers, IKEA furniture, relationships, and smiles)

“When you think a compliment, open your mouth and let it out.” (An old teacher)

Just do the next right thing.

Houses should be clean enough to be healthy, dirty enough to be happy.

Do the thing you’ll regret not doing most.

Never rely on a man for money.

Never go to bed angry and don't sweat the small stuff.

Get two cats instead of one

A tried and tested Bible one for an agnostic-

Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For as you judge others, so you yourselves will be judged. Mathew 7.1

Think a warning for and against transference and could counter transference.

If you need to borrow an item more than once from the same person, you need to get your own

You have no control over the way other people behave. You can only control the way you react to that behaviour.
Spot on.

What other people think of you is none of your business.

Work to live not live to work.

Listen to men's actions, not their words.

Don't concern yourself with the opinions of sheep. - that may be from Game of Thrones though😂

Parent the child you have and not the one you want.

No regrets. Do the best you can in any situation with the knowledge and resources to hand.

Powder your nose, paint your toes, line your lips and keep 'em closed
Cross your legs, dot your I's and never let 'em see you cry (Lyrics from a Miranda Lambert song)

Just breathe

Never run after a man or a bus. There’ll be another one along soon enough.

That if a man wants to be with you, you will know! Dating suddenly became much easier once I accepted this

@Coniferhedge I love it!!

@EggysMom

No regrets. Do the best you can in any situation with the knowledge and resources to hand.

This is my life-mantra. I live by the saying "do the thing that you will most regret not doing." We're not here for long. Life's too short to waste time in regret when you could be taking action to experience/do those things you know you need to.