DATING

[MOSSY65]

Hello, please can you help me as i'm going out of my mind. I am 55 and have had a first and second date with a lady. Both couldn't of gone much better. We seemed to make a real connection and held hands and kissed on the second date. I even asked if I could see her again and she said yes. we talked about what to do but didn't arrange anything specially. I got a text after the second date saying what a lovely time she had. This was last Saturday. She also said I could call her whenever I wanted. I was so happy as I really liked her. That's when it all seemed to go wrong. On sunday afternoon I decided to call her on whatapp but no answer so I left a message saying I would try again later. I tried her mobile later in the evening but no answer and I left no message. I haven't contacted her since as I don't want to pester her but I will call her tomorrow night. I don't understand why she didn't call me back on sunday or even this week. I don't want to blow this but think I may have done so already. please can you help me.

I would send her a message. If no reply then move on. Good luck.

Don't call her again!!!! She's ghosted you.

She's ain't that into you. For whatever reason she's changed her mind. It's horrible and you'll never know why, but it's her problem not yours.

Get up, brush yourself down and get back in the dating game.

Please don't ring her again!!! You're doing yourself no favours.

I'm a similar age to you.

Ps if someone asks me after I date if I want to see them again, I always say yes. I know, I know. But it's difficult to say to someone's face. Actually no, you're not my type.

If someone text me after the date I would I had an enjoyable time too. However if they asked to meet me again, then I would say the old sorry it's me not you but we didn't click.

However not all people can give the sorry I'm not that into text and just ghost.

There is a possibility she's just been really busy or sick or something. My DH and I looked at messages from the start of our romance and honestly I used to leave him hanging all the time and I thought nothing of replying to a text a day later but he said at the time he was on tender hooks! I would leave it a day or so then send a message along the lines of it was great to see you again, it would be lovely to meet again let me know if you would like that then leave the ball in her court. If she says no then you deserve better!!

Also if someone thinks you've blown it by calling them when they SAID you could then you don't want to be with someone with that kind of temperament anyway!! Good luck, you seem like a nice person I'm sure if this one doesn't work out the next one will!

I wouldn't call again but I don't see any harm in waiting a day or so and texting once again, explicitly asking for another date.

Leave it in her court there though. Two missed calls and a text over the course of a week isn't OTT but I would leave it there. She has the chance to reply on either channel.

I would try not to get your Hopes up though, it's not personal if she doesn't reply, just easy to get a bit carried away on a good date when the person might not be right for you on reflection. Obv it would have been nice to let you know if that is the case but unfortunately not everyone does.

Have you called her on What'sApp successfully before? If not, is it possible she hasn't realised there are calls /messages for her? I'd try a final text, just in case there's a technology issue rather than her ghosting you!

Just realised OP was months ago!! 😂

Oh yeah! Oops.

Ah no!!

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