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Arcadia · 13/10/2020 09:11

I don't remember being properly bored since the 1980s.
Seriously bored.
I do have a job, a family, and am not on an area with high restrictions, so realise we are lucky (not a 'poor me' thread).
I've tried starting a new craft project, aiming for a new professional goal which is involving quite a lot of work, getting more creative with my cooking, meeting friends and family when I can, focussing on my daughters activities etc.
I'm just so bored.
Anyone else?
Also any suggestions?

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Nowifi · 13/10/2020 09:37

Do you like to read? I've got a stack of books I could get through if I had the time!

Arcadia · 13/10/2020 09:53

Thanks nowif, I am reading when I can, and also have a big stack of books!
But it's more of a restless feeling - I need something bigger to occupy my brain - some kind of planning, project or novelty! Or some kind of adventure!

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DelphineWalsh · 13/10/2020 09:58

I know what you mean. Planning for big holidays, events, festivals and parties are on hold for the foreseeable. The day to day is pretty mundane when there is nothing to look forward to.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 13/10/2020 10:09

I'm the same. Some form of exercise helps (I'm not great at exercising but even a long walk helps),
I've also been planning various trips for when we are able to go and that has helped a bit but then also makes me more frustrated at times

Arcadia · 13/10/2020 10:10

I know @DelphineWalsh, I wake up in the morning and feel like 'just another day' but I'm not at all depressed, I'm fairly happy if that makes sense. I'm a restless person that needs a lot of stimulation. I usually do things like go to court for my job, I really miss the drama of court.
Seeing friends and family is lovely but everyone's lives are narrower inevitably, and of course we end up talking about The situation. I feel a bit on edge on pubs and restaurants which just aren't the same, plus I don't want to go out too much.
I feel like I could start an affair, go on a drugs and alcohol binge, or start gambling to get some excitement in my life! Obviously I won't but it's that kind of feeling!

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Arcadia · 13/10/2020 10:15

@RockingMyFiftiesNot long walks are a good idea, always helps with the restlessness.
I know what you mean about planning trips. We were going to do a big Canada trip next summer but I don't want to put work into planning or look forward to it too much if it isn't going to happen!

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anothernamereally · 13/10/2020 10:16

Exactly the same feeling here - I'm fed up of reading and Netflix, can't see family as they are in a high risk area or shielding.
Home again today whilst I await dc test results for the second time since schools went back. No advice really op except to say it won't be forever

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 13/10/2020 10:20

@Arcadia I know what you meant - but I think it helps to believe this will end. Hopefully next year, who knows. But your planning won't be wasted. Even if you don't fancy a long walk, are there places you could go locally for a look round? And on rainy days visit museums or art galleries - places which are no longer the stuffy places they used to be. Even a drive out exploring the local area makes for a change of scenery. We've lived where we are now for 30 years and are still finding places we haven't been to or haven't been to for years.

paap1975 · 13/10/2020 10:20

Tell me about it. It seems like every day is get up, wash, get dressed, go downstairs to work, go outside for "walkies", watch TV, go to bed. There is nothing fun in my life any more. We have been out to the restaurant a couple of times but it isn't enjoyable.
I wish I could plan something, anything, to look forward to. I am bored of reading, crafts etc and there are only 2 of us to feed, so cooking opportunities are limited.
Don't even know if we'll be allowed to see family for Christmas, so can't even plan that.
It's making me pretty depressed...

Arcadia · 13/10/2020 10:22

Sorry about your family @anothernamereally and I hope your results come back clear.
I had a rainy Saturday one weekend recently where time literally seemed to stand still. Since then I've tried to plan more for the weekends but it still feels like I'm 'filling time'. I usually love my weekends!
My DP is a potterer and doesn't crave any novelty in his life, he's happy to do the same things all the time. We have just one DC and no pets so are a fairly quiet household!

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Arcadia · 13/10/2020 10:24

@RockingMyFiftiesNot museum is a good idea. I actually live in a culturally rich city, so am lucky. Although city centre now full of students so slightly avoiding!

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Arcadia · 13/10/2020 10:26

@paap1975 I know, I'm not a massive Christmassy person but we usually all get together (brother, sister, their families and my mum) for a few days between Christmas and NY. We don't live that close to each other so it's a special time. To think we may not do that this year is tough, and time will REALLY drag then!

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ILiveInSalemsLot · 13/10/2020 10:28

When I get like this, it’s because I need a change of scenery.
Plan a day trip to somewhere you’ve not been before this weekend.
Meet a friend for a coffee and a walk.
Go do something random. I just booked a horse ride at some local stables.

Champagneforeveryone · 13/10/2020 10:35

It's the planning I've missed, and despite being busy I can really relate to the feeling of restlessness. Even Christmas does not require the same planning this year.

We have a big holiday booked for next year, but I can't bring myself to get too excited or plan too much in case it's cancelled.

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 13/10/2020 10:43

If you are prepared to say roughly where you live (not specific enough to be identified), people might be able to give you some ideas for things to do/places to visit where you would feel safe.

Arcadia · 13/10/2020 11:24

@ILiveInSalemsLot I am considering visiting a place about an hour away, a place I've never been. Will be weather dependant though, and need to consider DP and DC who have their own agendas for the weekend so feel slightly trapped!

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Arcadia · 13/10/2020 11:25

@RockingMyFiftiesNot I live in university city in south east, just slightly too far from London! I could go to London but don't particularly want to spend lots of time on public transport and it would involve a lot if that.

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RockingMyFiftiesNot · 13/10/2020 11:30

@Arcadia I don't blame you for that at all. Unfortunately I'm in the North so can't share ideas. I'm stating what you might think is the obvious here but I googled 'things to do in the rain in xxx' and it came up with a few ideas I hadn't thought of; 'country parks near me' also worth a google, as is museums and galleries as a search may turn up places you didn't know about or had forgotten about.

Arcadia · 13/10/2020 11:35

@RockingMyFiftiesNot good idea, forecast looks nice so maybe an arboretum this weekend... outdoors and can get there by car. Just need to persuade pre- teen DC and home living DP!

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Arcadia · 13/10/2020 11:37

Home loving DP!
Or go with a friend

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