My dd sits 'wrong' and its driving me bananas

[Lollyneenah]

I love her of course, but fuck me she will not sit like a reasonable human anymore.
AFAIK she sits like a human in school, restaurants, the cinema, her friends homes, family homes but on MY sofas it's a never ending wriggle sprawling moving mass. It's like she has been replaced with an alien who has had no prior experience of sitting on a fecking armchair.

I dont tell her off for it, because its not spoiling the chairs or anything but it is driving me a tiny bit more nuts everyday.

Does this end? Is it just my child?

She definitely was using chair correctly up until the age of 7 and a half

It's not so much that DS2 twitches but bounces like Tigger non-bloody-stop.
God, he got value out of the jumperoo.

Reading to my 9 year old is not relaxing .. he does shuttle runs up and down then hides behind the sofa/ curtains as he gets excited. (He does have ASD and sensory/ proprioception issues)

I can't sit on the same sofa as them, it's like being in soft play.
The trouble is consigning them to the same sofa is like creating a writhing mass of human spaghetti.

I'm exhausted. I have misguided beliefs in personal space.

A wobble cushion helps DS1 at the kitchen table by absorbing a lot of the wriggle. Plus the chair with arms that stops him sliding off sideways. His knees and feet still have to be regularly told that they are not welcome for dinner.

Apparently this is really important for.... something. I’m sorry that’s not that useful but the fidgeting, weird body movement and hanging upside down of the sofa is essential for the development of....something? To do with inner ear/core/vestibular system?

I’ve googled and found some links to various “mommy” sites, but here is something a bit more scientific www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3858645/

TL:DR it’s really good for kids to fidget and hand upside down

@GunsAndShips
DD has been the sleeper from Hell all her life, then we bought the blanket and bam! She can sleep . I put off buying one for so long as they were expensive, but saw an Amazon £29 one recommended on here, so took a chance.

@picklemewalnuts

It's a thing. Physios know about it. When she sits properly on a kitchen chair, does she wrap her feet and legs around the legs?

Try her with a fiddle gadget- a twisty man or a cube or beads. She may settle a bit then. Don't tell her she does it though, it doesn't help to feel self conscious.

That would be me

Short dangly legs really don't help!

I used to favour marking in school on the smaller classroom furniture.

I want to curl up in cosy positions, but as I get older I get increasingly tighter in my joints and muscles despite the yoga.

When I went to secondary, my classmates forever whinged about me taking my shoes off; it was so I could kneel to sit high enough against the table to write comfortably.
I favoured doing homework lying on my side in bed.

But I didn't bounce perpetually!

DSS is 14 and it's still going, except all his limbs are really LONG now so things go flying all the time (cups, cushions, his phone...) grin

Yep, this too. It's like living with an over excited Labrador. My most used phrases are, "watch that cup of tea" and "mind my wine".😆

My mum would feel your pain op. She still tuts at my inability to sit in one position for longer than 5 minutes and I'm 40.

Relax! There is no wrong way of sitting when relaxing at home.

bogrollbogof where is your wobble cushion from please? Sounds like something my DS would benefit from.

@picklemewalnuts

It's a thing. Physios know about it. When she sits properly on a kitchen chair, does she wrap her feet and legs around the legs?

Try her with a fiddle gadget- a twisty man or a cube or beads. She may settle a bit then. Don't tell her she does it though, it doesn't help to feel self conscious.

It can be a sign of dyspraxia I think (or hypermobility) I can't remember exactly, but that twisting feet round the legs and not sitting straight can be a big clue that somethign else is going on

Shes just asked if I want to pretend to be cats all day.

I'm up for that!