Those who use dating sites, what's the timeline?

[MaureenMLove]

I've recently joined a site, having been married for 27 years and separated for 2. Plenty of 'hi beautiful' shit and various other opening lines, that make me want to vomit!.

Been chatting to a fella though for a couple of weeks and he seems normal and we have good banter, with a touch of innuendo, but nothing lewd. Really enjoying chatting almost daily, but no indication that it'll move on.

What's your timeline for moving it on? What's an acceptable length of time to still be just via the website? Do you suggest switching to WhatsApp? FaceTime? (so over video calls this year..). Dive in and suggest a meet?

FYI - I'm 52 and haven't dated since 1989!

If he's not suggesting meeting then I'd suspect he was partnered up.

Have you done your due diligence? Checked he's single? Coz really thats the first thing I do before I waste time going nowhere.

What do you mean, 'check he's single'? Apart from him telling me he is, I can't do more than that, can I?

Well, does his facebook status say single?

You could always ask if he'd like to meet

Yep I'd google him. Try and research a bit of his background.

I had a rule of max 2 weeks and if no meet up mentioned or agreed to if I brought it up then I stopped messaging. Most people I met within a few days as people by text and person are often very different and have had friends fall hook, line and sinker for someone after messaging them for weeks on end only for the person to be a huge disappointment in the end. I'd have always rather found out early and on to the next

Oh and I did no sleuthing before meeting up and I wouldn't swap numbers till after we'd met up and wanted to see each other again.

I don't know his surname at the moment. If I get that far, I have a friend who works in the right field to know everything about him!

Anyway, fuck it, just starting this thread spurred me on! I've laid it on the line just now!. And now we wait for a response....

I don't know his surname at the moment

Ask him. And ask him if you can be facebook friends.

If a guy i was chatting to on OLD asked to be facebook friends I'd run a mile. Some sites let you connect your instragram but most people I know don't do that.

Dont leave it more than 2-3 weeks of messaging before arranging a date - I've always waited til they suggested meeting up to suggest a call (easier during covid).

It's only disappointing to think youve a connection to someone youve never met because youve been pinging back and forth for weeks, only for it all to peter out once you meet up

Dive in, be bold, meet multiple people, told take what they have written as a pinch of salt, have fun but stay safe (public places, tell a friend where you are going, have your phone set to track/find my iPhone).

Boldest paid off for me, I'm sitting next to him

Oh and google them, make sure they are who they say they are. If they don't have an internet footprint ask for an explanation, we all leave a trace these days

@Palavah

If a guy i was chatting to on OLD asked to be facebook friends I'd run a mile. Some sites let you connect your instragram but most people I know don't do that.

Dont leave it more than 2-3 weeks of messaging before arranging a date - I've always waited til they suggested meeting up to suggest a call (easier during covid).

It's only disappointing to think youve a connection to someone youve never met because youve been pinging back and forth for weeks, only for it all to peter out once you meet up

I agree with this. If someone I was chatting to on OLD but hadn't met/discuss meeting up with wanted to add me on Facebook i'd not be keen...

Plans for a meet are in progress!

Great news hope it goes well!