Life can be so shitty

[dippyGirl5]

So this week I have had a miscarriage AND had to have my beautiful dog out to sleep. I don't even know why I'm posting...life is just really really shit!

Ah @dippyGirl5 that is the shittest week, I am so sorry to hear this.

It's truly shite sometimes. Sorry for your losses.

Oh I'm sorry, what a horrible week you've had

So sorry for your losses. Life is so cruel at times. Take care of yourself.

That is so very shit. I am deeply sorry that you have suffered both these losses.

This is so deeply deeply shit. I'm so sorry 💚

Bless you @dippyGirl5

I had my 12yo cat PTS a few weeks ago. And a week later my mum died very suddenly.

This year can fuck right off.

That's crap

Thinking of you

So sorry xxx

That's just awful. I'm so sorry.

Admit I clicked because your title resonated - I thought it was bad this week when the boiler exploded. Then next day DH got a cancer diagnosis. 2020 in the bin please!

So sorry, that's so terrible!

So sorry what an awfully difficult time.
2020 has been terrible for many.
Thinking of you all

Sending kind thoughts, I am sorry

Thank you everyone!

And I'm so sorry @Crunchymum for your losses! Losing a parent is so so difficult. I hope you have people in your life to help you through!

And @xtinak - I hope your DH's cancer is treatable and ye have a good outcome!

Part of me wants to ask what are the nice things people do to look after themselves in these situations? The other part of me just wants to cry and get angry (I don't even know at what!)...more destructive than good! Sorry...babbling...

What a horrible week, I'm so sorry

I'm so sorry this happened to you! Really sad.

To get better... If you need to cry, cry! Don't hold it in, it's not healthy.
And if you feel angry, you may need to burn off some adrenaline. You could beat the shit out of a pillow, or pump weights, or sing along to angry punk rock metal songs... Get the anger out of your system. Then cry. Then do something nice for yourself. A nice cuppa. A warm bath. Maybe paint your nails, or comb you hair. Something soothing. Listen to calm, hopeful music. Or any music that fits your current mood. Go for a walk. Look at the birds and the clouds. Remember happy times. Remember what you've lost. Have a good cry. Make some plans for the future. Maybe something to honour the ones you've lost, to get you started... Rinse and repeat as long as needed.
At some point (optional), talk to others (if that helps). Though I actually find that listening to others (and their own pain) helped more.
... And when you're ready, eventually, move on.
Grief is tough. Give yourself time.