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Early pregnancy dad not interested :(

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Pengola87 · 08/10/2020 13:09

I was seeing someone for 6-8 weeks from early June until the end of July. It was quite intense and full on but I really fell for him after being single for YEARS! He abruptly ended things though and blamed me for being mentally unstable, not replying to him quickly enough etc and throughout the time we were seeing each other he was quite jealous and used to question how often I was online on WhatsApp etc, tracking who liked my posts on Facebook. He started seeing someone else pretty much the day after we split up even though we were still in contact and in August we slept together. He told me he would meet his girlfriend the next day and end things but instead messaged me to let me know they had had great sex and then blocked me👍 around the end of August I found out I was pregnant, he told me I would ruin his life and his new relationship if I went ahead with it etc etc and we have been in on and off contact since then with him blocking me the nights he is with his gf and video calling other nights? We’ve had 3 hour conversations and then he won’t talk to me for days. I’ve worked out I’m around 7 weeks now and have got an appointment for an early scan tomorrow due to other issues. He said he would come with me but I haven’t heard from him in a couple of days and I’m beginning to question whether it’s best he doesn’t come anyway as it won’t do my mental health any good. I already feel absolutely rubbish and low about myself that he chose her over me and it’s worse because we were talking over lockdown and he was my rock and made me believe we really had something. I also told him something I hadn’t disclosed to anyone before and it was after that he dumped me! What do I do going forward re the pregnancy? Try and involve him or block him and accept will be doing it alone?? Confused

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Pancakeorcrepe · 08/10/2020 13:55

Unfortunately it is clear that he will not be involved. This is wrong of course, but I think the most far you could get is him paying towards the child and you would have to go through tribunal etc.
Are you sure you want to go ahead with the pregnancy? You do have options. If going ahead, you have to be prepared to be a single mum. Nothing wrong with that, but you have to assess if you have the resources to do it on your own.

Fluffycloudland77 · 08/10/2020 13:59

Let the child maintenance service deal with him. If he doesn’t want to see his child that’s his loss.

Congratulations on your baby.

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