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What do you think to the saying, people regret the things they didn’t do more than the things they did do ?

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Lardlizard · 08/10/2020 12:20

Do you think it’s true ?

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Premiuml · 08/10/2020 12:28

Do you think it's true?

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user13745865422563 · 08/10/2020 12:28

No.

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june2007 · 08/10/2020 12:29

Perhaps. If one feels they passed up chances offered to them

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notacooldad · 08/10/2020 12:30

I think you make your choices with the information you have at the time. Hindsight would be marvellous super power but alas no one has it!

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ginghamtablecloths · 08/10/2020 12:30

No, I don't. When I look back there are plenty of things which I regret doing and things I didn't. I bet if I was to take a sheet of paper and list them in two columns they'd even themselves out fairly equally.

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Bluesheep8 · 08/10/2020 13:25

No I don't think it's true.

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garlictwist · 08/10/2020 13:29

This is my least favourite saying (along with "there's no such thing as bad weather". There fucking is).

I have regretted quite a lot of the things I've done.

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Mocktober · 08/10/2020 13:34

It's just a way of egging people on to do things that may be unwise in the long run.

It totally depends on what it is though. Passing up a job opportunity : probably be regretful. Deciding against getting hammered and declaring your lust for your married boss: not regretful.

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WunWun · 08/10/2020 13:36

I can't think of one thing I've regretted not doing, but I could probably think of 100 things I regret doing.

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StandardPoodle · 08/10/2020 18:25

No.

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ItWorriesMeThisKindofThing · 08/10/2020 18:28

It makes no sense to me.

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caringcarer · 08/10/2020 18:51

I think if a person turned down a fantastic opportunity they may regret it. I could have left first marriage years before I did. I stayed partly because of kids but mostly because I was afraid of coping alone. I do regret not going sooner as I did cope with out ex and became much more confident without him constantly criticizing me. I am much happier without him so in my case I do regret my decision to stay, even though I did get away in the end. I know I should have trusted my instinct and had more courage.

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RedPandaFluff · 08/10/2020 19:09

I think it means chances and opportunities, rather than just acts. I tend to agree - especially when it's fear of change holding us back.

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pancakes22 · 08/10/2020 19:11

I agree. I end up regretting not doing lots of things. If you at least try them you can laugh in reflection and say it didn't work out but if you don't like me then you just end up looking back regretfully all the time

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dudsville · 08/10/2020 19:13

Totally depends on what one did or didn't do.

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IamPickleRick · 08/10/2020 19:15

I regret loads but it all got me here.

The thing I regret most though is saying no to a question I should have said yes to, and it wouldn’t have changed the outcome at all. It was a flippant no. I missed out.

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JaneJeffer · 08/10/2020 22:15

Nope

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vampirethriller · 08/10/2020 22:30

I regret plenty of things I've done.

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Sapiophile · 08/10/2020 23:42

It’s a ridiculous saying designed to encourage the underthinking or chronically indecisive. Anyone who hasn’t spent their entire life in a box regrets all kinds of things they’ve done. I know I do.

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user1471538283 · 09/10/2020 07:56

No. I've regretted alot of stuff

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 09/10/2020 08:00

Assuming life is good now then I get and agree with this statement- but then I tend to follow the mantra “everything will be alright in the end, and if if its not alright it’s not the end”

I do regret not doing many things- nothing harmful, just perhaps gone to Vegas pre kids, taken some property risk in life etc.

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NataliaOsipova · 09/10/2020 08:03

It totally depends on what it is though. Passing up a job opportunity : probably be regretful. Deciding against getting hammered and declaring your lust for your married boss: not regretful.

This is it in a nutshell 😁. I agree - it really depends....

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TheNemesisOfLame · 09/10/2020 08:16

I think its the opportunities missed tho.

I do regret not being bolder and saying yes to stuff when I had the freedom of no responsibility. Not settling for the 'this job is sensible and local'. Paucity of ambition. Being middle-aged at 22.

I could still have returned to dullsville if it hadn't worked out- but I'll never know now.

I like my life where it is now - and of course it may have been v different if I'd jumped the other way...

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BertieBotts · 09/10/2020 09:42

I think you probably just forget the things you didn't do and don't regret TBH!

So the saying should really be "Regrettable things are less forgettable".

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EssentialHummus · 09/10/2020 09:49

I agree. I end up regretting not doing lots of things. If you at least try them you can laugh in reflection and say it didn't work out but if you don't like me then you just end up looking back regretfully all the time

Same here. I’ve done some stupid shit but I’m prone to overthinking so actually just bloody doing something and letting the cards fall as they may is a good thing for me. Not routinely, but in situations where I’m prevaricating I’m usually happy to have just thought, fuck it, let’s try.

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