What's the most loving/caring thing a friend has done for you?

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Inspired by a thread over in Relationships, what is the best thing a friend has done for you?

Two of mine came to see me when I was in hospital a few years ago. It was miles and miles out of their way but they came, and gave me something to think about other than my pain and surgery. And they brought Maltesers!

Anyone else got some nice friend stories to share?

Lstened and believes me when I opened up about childhood abuse

My best friend came around and let herself in with her keys when I was really unwell and just got me out of bed, got me eating and drinking something, and sat with me so I wasn't alone. It was just what I needed and the fact that they knew that and came out of their way (she has cerebral palsy, walking isn't her favourite thing) to help me out was when I knew she was the best person.

Drove 50 miles in the middle of the night (after midnight when she reached me) bringing sandwiches, crisps and chocolate in response to a despairing text from me.

I was working through my second consecutive night in the university library getting nowhere with my thesis when she sent a friendly catch-up text and I replied with the fact that I was getting nowhere fast and didn't think I would ever finish.

An hour and a half later, she texted to say she was at the front of the library and could I come down to meet her and get her through the turnstile.

She had been on her way to bed but had read my text, got dressed again, driven to the 24hr Tesco and bought a meal deal, then driven to my university and brought me the food.

We sat in the entrance for half an hour while I ate and we chatted. Then she left and drove off into the night and I got back to work much more productively and more optimisticaly.

I know she would always be there if I needed her, as I would be for her.

Drove 90 mins each way to spend the day with me the first day dh was back at work after dd was born. She brought lunch and tea, held the baby while I had a nap, did the washing up and was generally wonderful.

She will come to my house with a bottle of wine and a hug. When i was feeling down, she bought me a lovely pair of bespoke earrings.

For me, that’s enough.

I was in a relationship with a weed addiction, was always skint as he didn't work and I was spending money on weed for him to keep the peace! (Long time ago and so thankful to be married to a lovely man now) Anyway, we were out looking in the shops and I seen a jumper I loved, said how nice it was,as she was trying clothes on I waited outside and out she came with the jumper for me 🥺 sounds materialistic but it wasn't really about the jumper, I was in such a bad place and she knew it.

When I moved house, the next day my dgm took ill. When I was visiting her my bff unpacked my entire removals and organised my house!!

During lockdown I texted (quite early) that I fancied a wine and she offered to drop wine around. What a friend!

When I had my DC1 a friend had gone to her home town to visit family for a weekend. She came to visit me when she got back and brought 2 black bags of baby clothes that she got from her sister (who I have never met). She carried them with her on a 6 hr bus journey, I don't know how she managed along with her own bags as well. I thought this was a really kind, thoughtful thing to do and very generous of her sister too.

For a significant birthday during lockdown, a few groups of friends made me really heartfelt gifts. It took them a lot of time and effort and were equally brilliant in different ways. It meant so much. Seemingly little things but massive to me.

I had a severe injury a few years ago, and didnt walk for a few months, surgery etc. My dds were quite young so it was an awful time for me and no family was nearby.

While I had friends over most days helping me, my one friend washed my hair for me over the Bath while I sat in my wheelchair. I dont know why but I remember feeling like it was such a caring thing to do. She had spent that day tidying, making food for me, and generally looking after me, and it was a quiet day and we didnt chat much but I just felt like I 100% trusted someone and I knew how much she cared.

We are amazing friends now, and I will never forget that day. She is one of the few friends that I completely trust to this day. X

These are so lovely to read! I’ve never had a proper friend so I’ve nothing to add, but reading these gives me hope that not all people are bad.

One friend looked after my toddler while I saw a psychologist for birth-related PTSD. She was so relaxed and kind about it that it meant I could just go without worrying too much about that aspect of things. Made a huge huge difference and turned my life around.

When I was with my ex-husband I used to cry to all my friends about how upset I was with him. Only one friend had the guts to say how it was basically ‘I’m sick of hearing about this, if you don’t stop talking about this then no-one’s going to be interested anymore’ Sounds incredibly harsh and I was miffed at the time but I finally divorced him a week later, it almost gave me permission to 😂 We’re still great mates 12 years later and ex-husband is unemployed and still a big a loser as ever.

Visited me in hospital shortly after my difficult 1st labour with an ice cold can of coke , my absolute favourite drink .
Came to my house very week on her 1 day off to hold my 2nd baby who i could barely put down , to give me a break and get my jobs done . Simple acts but done with love , we have been best friends since primary school , she knows i would do anything for her as she would for me.
Good feeling knowing someone is always on your side .

These are lovely, I forgot I'd started this thread! Any more?