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Moving from belfast to a village near chester in this situation?

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useragsj · 03/10/2020 12:04

I’ve been with my partner for a year and we have a two week old. He lives in a village called tarporely. I’ve visited a couple of times and it’s very nice. He has a three bed house so good space. He works in Chester and can’t relocate. I’m a nurse so can realistically work anywhere.

He’s been going back and forth from mine in Belfast and tarporely for the last six months. He’s suggested we move to tarporely. I know it is my decision but I’m so confused as to what to do. Obviously my family are in Belfast and it’s where I grew up. I love it here. But as DP says my house is smaller and maybe it is nice to bring up a child in a village instead. I would probably rent out my place.

I’m mostly worried about meeting enough people and making friends. Me and DP only stayed together when we found out about the pregnancy so we are just seeing how things go for now and hoping it will work out! Guess I’m also wondering if I will like village life after living in Belfast so long.

Anyone been in similar situation?

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Howzaboutye · 03/10/2020 12:17

England is nothing like NI for getting to know people as an adult. You will meet people at baby classes school etc. But it's still not the same. You will have culture shock

HopeClearwater · 03/10/2020 12:18

Tarporley is nice though ...

useragsj · 03/10/2020 12:23

howz what do you mean it’s nothing like NI? I have heard this before but don’t know what it really means. Not as sociable?

I have joined a tarporely group online and people seem quite chatty. There’s a few classes on at the village hall usually when there’s no covid! Apparently they are good for mums, baby classes etc.

I am a bit worried about how different village life will be, especially village life in England compared with Ireland. And I do love Belfast. Villlage life seems appealing but will the novelty wear off?!

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Howzaboutye · 04/10/2020 14:35

Er yes, definitely not as sociable. That bit of England might be ok. But mostly people don't actually talk to each other. Go for a few visits and see what you think

PunkAssMoFo · 04/10/2020 14:44

Tarporley is a lovely village, but... It’s a massive difference to city living and NI.
There’s lots of great things for Families/kids to do But it does feel a bit cut off. Would your do be willing to compromise and move to a bigger town/ city near to tarporley? Chester, Shrewsbury or the likes...

peanut2017 · 04/10/2020 14:50

Definitely don't think a move at this stage would be wise OP. Like you said you are trying to give things a go for the baby's sake so you need all the support you can get from your family around you.

If it didn't work out you have a lot more to lose. You are the one having to make the sacrifices for something that may not work out

FlibbertyGiblets · 04/10/2020 15:03

Tarporley really is lovely, Chester close by and of course the madness that is Crockyland is just down the road.

But. But. But you are only together because of the baby. Stay put, that is my advice. Your family are a ready made support group; building up a network in a new area isn't easy or quick even in normal times.

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