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How do you get through the weekend if a work issue is bothering you?

17 replies

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/10/2020 20:46

I'm usually pretty good at compartmentalising. If nothing can be done, then why waste the weekend worrying.

But I have a particular issue which kept me awake most of last night and I wasn't able to sort out today. Which means it will hang over me all weekend.

The wine isn't helping Grin

Anyone got any tips?

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SpeedofaSloth · 02/10/2020 20:47

In the past I have gone into work and dealt with it, if I can. Not always possible and probably not desirable.

Bellesavage · 02/10/2020 20:48

I just continue working. Don't be me.

boomoohoo · 02/10/2020 20:48

Can you call a colleague and chat it through wth them?

vanillandhoney · 02/10/2020 20:50

Try and ignore it, which generally works until Sunday night when I didn't sleep and then things were always awful on Monday morning!

Nacreous · 02/10/2020 20:51

I either:

  1. Fix it and then knock off early Monday

2. Keep busy and then listen to something soothing and a bit dull on the radio when I go to bed.
Or 3. Set up a notebook to write down anything I think of relating to it so none of it's stuck in my head trying to be held onto.

You don't want to make 1. a regular thing but sometimes it's the right thing to do for your sanity.
BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/10/2020 20:53

I had a chat with a colleague earlier today but it didn't really help though it was good to hear that she sometimes also finds herself in the same situation.

I can't really resolve the issue without supervisory help, and my supervisor has been on leave the last 2 weeks.

It's a bit time sensitive too so when they get back, I'm going to want this sorted but they've no doubt got bigger pressing issues.

There really isn't anything practical I can do right now to sort it and usually that's enough to mean I can push it away.

But this one isn't going anywhere.i suspect it's because I've screwed up (in a very minor way!!) and it involves sorting a problem I've inadvertently caused.

I'm usually good enough at my job that I never have to worry about this (I'm not perfect but my good points outweigh the bad) and I'm overthinking that this will have repercussions.

It won't. It's not that kind of workplace. And I know that. But my self conscious isn't accepting this Grin

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/10/2020 20:55

Talking to you lot is helping [hug]

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Nacreous · 02/10/2020 20:59

I did something at work that meant we had to restart something which wasted a lot of people's time, though it was ultimately for the best, but if I hadn't fucked up we could probably have avoided it and still got a good outcome. I slept badly and felt sick for weeks afterwards. I strongly suspect no one remembers at all 6 months on.

boomoohoo · 02/10/2020 21:01

Ok. Accept that you feel a bit knocked by it. It's ok to, its shows you take responsibility for your mistakes, that's a good thing. Accept and give yourself permission to feel the way you feel about it right now. You said yourself you can normally snap out of it. You're allowed to feel preoccupied, anxious, all of it. Think about how you can take care of yourself this weekend and what can help you feel grounded and calm. Might not resolve it but it might bring a bit of relief or peace.

Sleep is also a great perspective giver, you will feel differently tomorrow when you wake up.

Allow yourself to be human and hold that we all make mistakes. Every single person does. And it's ok. Take care BrewCake

You sound very conscientious and hardworking

Pickypolly · 02/10/2020 21:01

In the same position myself.
I often am.

I’m just worrying and tying myself up in knots about it all.
Can’t stop thinking about it.
I have no suggestions though.
Nacre has good suggestions there.
It’s so hard isn’t it.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 02/10/2020 21:04

It is hard. And thank you for the positive comments. I really care. Which shows, I suppose, in how I feel.

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TheTurn0fTheScrew · 02/10/2020 21:09

i write down all the things I need to do when I'm next in and get myself A Plan Of Action, and then try to put it aside.

perhaps dysfunctionally, I think back to the last time I felt like this (for there have been many) and try to remember that although things don't always go perfectly I do tend to catastrophise rather, and generally looking back things weren't as bad/critical as I feared.

nolongersurprised · 02/10/2020 21:19

Do normal things and then congratulate yourself for getting normal things done, ie fake it till you make it.

So, by lunch time on Saturday if you’ve worried about work but also done the washing, gone to the shops and taken the kids to sport then reflect on how even though you’re a fretting mess you’re still doing normal things. That external framework of usual chores and activities seems to help with perspective

BuggerBognor · 02/10/2020 21:19

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MJMG2015 · 02/10/2020 21:29

There's a brilliant flow chart for this. It basically ends up with 'have sex'


There's an explanation with it (long forgotten) along the lines of 'good sex' will remind you there's more to life...'bad sex' will remind you there are bigger problems in life. Either way you forget about work' 🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

Alternista · 02/10/2020 21:30

Write a plan, then wear yourself out with high intensity exercise.

livefornaps · 02/10/2020 21:32

I get completely bombed out of my brains until Monday morning looms Grin

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