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Antisocial behaviour outside school gate - would the school actually be able to do anything if I contacted them?

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DuchenneParent · 02/10/2020 09:33

Hello, my son is in year 1 at a nursery and infant school (the children there range from age 2 to 7). In general we are happy with the school, they are outstanding and they do a really great job with my son who has a physical disability. They do a lot of extra curriculars and trips, have a lot of resources and the kids all love the teachers. There is a lot of social deprivation around the school but that didn't bother me when we were applying since they were such a good fit for my son in other ways and I think it's good to mix with other backgrounds.
However... Every school pick up or drop off, we park at the side of the road, and in the short distance between getting from there to the school gate the language and behaviour of the parents is really shocking. I'm no prude, but this is quite extreme. Things like "Oy, you f**g bh, what're you doing?" being shouted across the street when my 6 and 2 year old are standing right in front of them. Often it's just shouted conversations with "fckin' this" and "fckin' that" in every other sentence. If it were just a one off, or part of a quiet conversation I accidentally overheard, I would shrug it off, but it's becoming impossible to miss and it has happened every day recently! Surely this is anti social behaviour outside of such a setting? I know, some children have very difficult home lives and there are worse problems than swearing out there. But I am really not happy having my children exposed to this just in order to access school.
I was thinking of messaging the school, but I don't know if there is anything they could actually do? We drop the children off during a 20 minute window just inside the front gate now due to COVID measures, so it isn't actually happening inside the school grounds, rather immediately outside.
Does anyone know what can be done? It's sad because they are such a good school, and I would not move my son for the reasons above, but this is putting me off sending my daughter there at this stage!

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ThePlantsitter · 02/10/2020 09:38

They can't do anything. This is part of mixing with other backgrounds I'm afraid.

All you can do is take advantage of the great education they're offering your son and talk to him about the swearing etc. Thigh honestly at this age if you don't swear yourself I don't think he will copy those parents, it's more the feeling of intimidation you might want to discuss with him.

DuchenneParent · 02/10/2020 09:51

Okay, thanks. I thought that might be the case. 😕

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TeenPlusTwenties · 02/10/2020 10:27

You could raise it with the HT, who could send out a letter to parents, requesting they moderate their language. I can't see it having a great impact though.

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