Anyone else just feel totally broken?

[Mrslafayette]

I'm watching honour on itv, how horrendous and depressing. As is Covid, Brexit, Trump, johnson, climate change, lockdown, just absolutely sodding everything.

Yes, because there is nothing to distract us anymore. Not much to look forward to - walks with friends are less appealing now the weather has turned, though we're all buying thermals and boots and will carry on doing them on better days.

At this time of year we would normally be starting to think about Halloween, fireworks, Christmas shopping, maybe a weekend away somewhere festive, planning Christmas, work parties etc. Even Strictly with a takeaway at a friend's house. None of that is happening, and it all feels very bleak. Plus the weather has gone to shit after an unusually good spring and summer.

I would also like to hibernate until 1 March, please. I'm not expecting miracles by then but at least things might be looking more positive.

I'm a very resilient and optimistic person but for the first time last night I did think it was starting to become a bit dystopian! Watching those students being locked in their dorms and the legislation about mixing households. I'm sure we will get through this but the world will definitely have changed.

As Keziathe cat has said and I am also a fairly resilient and optimistic person, but went to my brother's this weekend and like my other brother they are both family units and I am on my own. Normally it doesn't bother me but on the way home I did feel rather sorry for myself.

Sometimes things do get to me. The only thing that does not bother me about the months ahead is Christmas. I am happy to spend it alone, doing what I want to do!

I also no longer enjoy going to the shops, even to window shop. I especially hate the shops that have barriers and you get herded like sheep. I know they have to do certain things but it is so depressing and there is no joy left.

I know some people are moving out of London. My friend who lives near me will do so (she had planned this for some time). We were talking about London and both agree it will probably be years before it gets back to what it was like - if at all.

Still, it is good to know that the pub closing time rule does not affect the MPs. God forbid they should 'suffer' too, eh?!!

@joystir59- I am so very sorry for your loss- I can only begin to imagine your pain.

You're very welcome *Tricky !

Just trying to spread a little joy... :)

Sorry, I meant Tickly !!

I was born in th 1950s - we lived in the countryside. I'm not sure daily life for my DM was so different.
No car, no travel to theatre/ cinema , restaurants

Oops posted too soon - hardly any shopping. I'm sure there would have been loneliness and depression. But day to day life was simple. And no internet so you can compare yourself to others.

@RosieLemonade

Oh bore off *@myhobbyisouting*. We all appreciate our kids and do crafts with them. Don’t be a condescending twerp.

That’s uncalled for.

"Oh bore off @myhobbyisouting. We all appreciate our kids and do crafts with them. Don’t be a condescending twerp."

@RosieLemonade sorry what? I don't think you really needed to dish out that abuse did you to someone trying to suggest flipping the coin and looking at things in a different way

This is a thread full of people mourning the things they can't do. Why not enjoy some things we can do instead of just sitting waiting for depression to set in?

And for your information, no, I didn't particularly do crafts with my kids much before this. Gave it a try though because the things we usually do are off limits, and actually, it has helped.

But sorry, I'll bore off shall I bring the condescending twerp that I am

I think the issue is hobby is that when you're having legitimate feelings of grief and worry for what's going on in the world, it's not very helpful to be told to basically just cheer up.

Sometimes you need to connect with people who feel the same so you can support each other.

Breezing into a thread where people are scared, mourning and unhappy, and saying 'well I'm fine, have you considered looking at the Christmas thread?' (Paraphrased I know) is going to rub people up the wrong way.

It's wonderful that you feel great, but we don't.
I've watched my business that I've built up over 8 years pretty much disappear, I've had to miss a close relatives death bed and funeral, it's now illegal for me to visit my mam and there's no end in sight so excuse me while I have a moan.

Have you heard the term 'toxic positivity'?

Sorry no, I feel the opposite and I work for the NHS in ITU. I'm fit and healthy, so is my DH all my kids. We have a nice house, enough to eat and money to cover the bills and outgoings. The garden is looking great and my car just sailed through it's MOT plus I'm married to a lovely man with a big willy. The kids are generally well behaved and my parents are still as mad as ever. I've seen too much in my career to worry about what I can't influence and focus on what I can and I greet every day as a blank sheet of paper. I've kept a detailed diary since early March and taken lots of pics, with permission and where appropriate, and I intent to write a book when this is all over which I’m hoping to get published, fingers crossed. To put life in context. My next door neighour is 90. She lost all her family and her left leg when their house was bombed in the Blitz. She qualified as a civil engineer after the war, one of the first women to do so , and went on to have 6 kids, one committed suicide another was crippled with poliomyelitis. She is still one of the most enthusiastic and cheerful people I know and to sit in the back garden and have afternoon tea with her is a real joy.

Me. Dad was found dead on his bathroom floor by the cleaner yesterday. We're not sure how long he had been there. The poor women is in shock and the shitty, cunting neighbour took the opportunity to barge in and help himself to cash, valuables and whatever else he could lay his hands on as 'dad owed him money'. I'm on the way there now and I'm about ready to crack skulls.

@Macramacious- take the police with you .

I’m so very sorry for your loss.

@eausolovely I really hope the last bits of pregnancy go well for you. I had a baby in the middle of lock down and I can honestly say I have loved theacl of pressure to be out and about. It is my third so I remember how exhausting it was being up and ready for visitors before and now I can just take it really easy. I won't say it's not been tough that only I and DH can hold him. Sometimes the idea of hot coffee and a wee in peace is like a dream! Also I have found that there are groups running. Some in person as they are done as Covid safe so it's worth asking around locally. Others are still fab online like baby massage (I did mine through someone in Chiswick but as it's online you could do it from anywhere - dm if you'd like details). My local children's center is doing online sessions for free. And I've met up with mums for walks in the park / joined Buggy Fit (which is Covid safe so can continue). So all in all there's hope. I hope you find the same.

@Tickly Thanks so much for your message this has given me a bit of hope for the next few weeks! I’m sure it will be a blessing in disguise and I feel a bit more positive than I did the other day. Hopefully the next few months return a bit more to normal for everyone.

Let’s hope so. It will be hard and beautiful. And if you need help you should still ask for it (someone will be along to shout at me for saying in COVID times that but tiny baby needs sometimes mean we need a helping hand).

@Shakespearsister
Well, I'm very glad for you and @myhobbyisouting that everything in your world is hunky dory, and I do get that looking on the bright side and all that stuff is supposed to be the way to go, but having someone telling you how fab everything is in their world, ( bills, health etc) is really the opposite of helpful to someone whose whole world is going down the pan.
Some folk are dreading Christmas, not happily skipping over to the Christmas thread to make jolly nice decorations. Perhaps a little more understanding might be nice

I’m with you. I’ve found the last couple of months harder than actual lockdown in some ways, and am dreading the winter which usually puts a big dent in my mental health at the best of times.

The final straw for me at the moment though is seeing my DS upset. He’s the happy, laid back kid usually but it’s starting to get to him and I’ve no idea how to help.

Joy and Mac so sorry 💐