Funeral songs, is this inappropriate?

[LookingForJul]

We lost our second DC yesterday. Another baby girl. We're shattered into a million pieces.

Cruelly, we lost our DD around the same gedtation September last year. No explanation.

It sounds ridiculous but I find it strangely comforting to plan ahead and sort things practically. I think I have decided on funeral songs but H isn't overly keen on the last one, although he loves it he said people might think us odd for choosing an upbeat song at the end.

Entrance song - The Duchess theme tune from the Keira Knightly film the Duchess.

Reflection song - I think it's gonna rain today - Nina Simone

Last one at exit, Sunchyme by Dario G

So sorry for your loss, i would be bawling my eyes out at I think its going to Rain today, I know it from Bette Middler in Beaches

You play what you and your DH want, and anything is right

Whatever you choose is appropriate. Anyone who dares judge you isn’t worthy of your attention. I’m so sorry, the pain must be indescribable 💐

We had big band music, then Loch Lomond, then jazz and finally we'll meet again for my dads funeral for him and us. As long as it is what you want, go for it x

@LookingForJul

Thank you, my grandad demanded he had 'Another one bites the dust' played for him and many people were very

I just didn't want to appear insensitive....

I was just about to say that’s my funeral song! I am an avid queen fan tho!!!!

Sorry for your loss, and have exactly what you want. Screw what others thing of it.

Please accept my sympathy at this very sad time.for you. I would say that at the time when you are saying goodbye,for now, to your daughter you should have exactly the funeral that is most meaningful and comforting for you. Sunchyme is a beautiful song

Op it's you and your DHs decision. Really sorry for your loss.

We had something upbeat played at my DDads funeral as the service ended and everyone walked out. It certainly helped ease the mood and stress of the moment.

I'm sorry for your losses. If you want songs at the funeral then have them, it's not inappropriate to have what you need at a funeral.

I'm so sorry OP. Have whatever songs you want at the funeral.

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Much love to you.

I’m so sorry for your losses.
I’m in agreement with everyone else if you like it and it’s special to you and your husband then those are the songs to choose

It's a beautiful song. It always makes me think of the first minutes after a storm, when the light returns and birds start singing again. It's a joyful song, but for me with an atmosphere of joy returning, and celebrating life. Your daughters had lives worth celebrating, as well as passing to mourn.

I know someone who deeply regrets deciding not to have the 'inappropriate' song at their Dad's funeral.

I am so, so sorry for your losses. I cannot even comprehend.

Have whatever song or music you want. I've been a sidesperson at many funerals, there's been some of the ones mentioned here, and also always look on the bright side of life, la bamba, time to say goodbye, I would walk 500 miles, highway to hell!

It really is about you, your husband and your beautiful baby girl and nobody else. Choose what you want.

I think it's perfectly appropriate. It feels quite thoughtful, and life-affirming. Like rain drying on the ground after a storm.

I'm so sorry