Anyone else get depressed when they hit mid 40s?

[HKmummymoo]

I can't stop thinking about my age and how old I am. I know we never know what's round the corner but I'm actually middle aged now so I'm in the middle of my life.

It makes me feel so depressed and sad. I can't stop thinking about it

I was so depressed hitting the big 4.0. I felt pretty low about my age until around 33/34 but, a couple of years on, I don’t think about it much anymore.
I’m more worried about my physical health as I’ve already got painful arthritis in several joints and am scared for the future. I’m working hard at trying to build up my strength and fitness so I can hopefully not end up in a home having my behind wiped by strangers like my poor arthritic & dementia sufferer DGM
So, I don’t feel depressed about my actual age, I do hate the way my skin has started sagging though.

I’m mean low until 43/44 years

Yep. Even worse when I got to 50. It's shit, don't let anyone tell you it isn't.

Nope. Nor at 50. I'm having a blast!

I think you mean the u shaped happiness curve. Supposedly the most unhappy year is 46 but things start improving again in your 50s.
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/may/05/happiness-curve-life-gets-better-after-50-jonathan-rauch

weepingwillow22, that's cheered me up

I was horrendous at turning 40. I literally threw everything up in the air, but i had plans, I had stuff to focus on, I decided to study full-time, made friends, spent hundreds on updating my wardrobe and bought myself the car I'd always wanted. Life was good. Then crash.....got married, moved house, back to being bored out of my brain working a job, the dishwasher broke down and having to split myself in many parts as a parent, partner, daughter, worker, friend has just broken me all over again. Dealing with teens and the demented antics of my father has pushed me again to examine my life. Did I mention the dishwasher broke? you know its stuff like washing up three times a day that seems to sap my mental energy.....it feels ridiculously unfair to be tied to a sink when I really want to be out doing something useful. It signifies for me not just a waste of time, but the fact I feel I've wasted half my life.

I don't have time to worry about getting old, I'm too busy and exhausted getting made old before I'm ready.

I know what you mean. I am 42 and have patches where I really get down about my age. Sometimes the thoughts are overwhelming and do get me down. I do try to think is it I’ve though as I had a parent who died in their 40’s. Every year is a bonus and every year I know more and accomplish new things. I have optimism that there are many fun times ahead and the rest of my life if out there waiting to be experienced. Every moment I give of my life to dwelling on the negative, I am wasting that moment. I try to for lots of things into my life that I enjoy and have to look forward to

Yep - 43 and it’s hitting me that I maybe have lived my best life and not sure what’s ahead of me as a single mum.

I’m 42 next month and there’s definable an impending sense of doom as I get closer to the date