Full term pregnant and anti social/anxious

[Newlywed2]

Hi

I’m almost 40 weeks pregnant and for some reason I do not want to see or even talk on the phone to ANYONE apart from my Husband.

I dont even want my parents to come to my house :( I’ve no idea why and I feel so awful! When people say “im coming up today is that okay?” I feel like saying well no sorry and resent them for assuming it’s okay to come up when I haven’t invited people? I feel awful for feeling like this as it’s not like me at all especially towards my parents I love them so much. I’m too scared to say anything because I don’t want to upset anyone.

I’m also worried for when my baby is born and people just turning up. I’ve told people NOT to come unnounced when baby is here so I pray people listen! I’m even tempted not to tell anyone when I go in to labour because I’m scared people will be waiting at my house for us to return home with baby! Im getting so anxious about it.

Does anyone know if these feelings are normal? :( My mum is on her way to mine now and my heart is racing! Hence this post

Thank you xx

[rorosemary]

Maybe it's hormonal since it's not as you normally are? Just tell them that you'd rather not be asked for meet ups at the moment because you feel very hormonal, but you'll let them know when you feel like it again.

[spiderlight]

I suspect this is hormonal - it's your instincts kicking in and preparing a safe place around you before your baby arrives (I'm picturing a cat giving birth in an airing cupboard here!). It's an anxious time generally and hormones on top of that must be difficult to handle. If you're worried, have a chat with your midwife. And remember that you have every right to refuse to let people in once your baby is here.

[MrsMaglev]

I think it's like extreme nesting like PP have said, your instincts are kicking in to keep baby safe from visitors.

Refuse away! It's ok to tell your mum you don't need her at the mo. I have heard of people keeping quiet about baby's arrival so family don't turn up looking to be entertained.

Does your DH know how you feel? Could he help field visitors or tell his side of the family to keep away for a bit?

[StraffeHendrik]

Sounds normal to me - cat in airing cupboard, exactly.

Also, do what you need to to. If you think people will be waiting at home for you, or you are worried they might and it's stressing you out, don't tell them you are in labour. You don't need any extra worry, anyone who is bothered by you being an unwelcoming host at this stage can piss off.

[Newlywed2]

Aw thank you everyone that’s reassuring!

Yeah I’ve told him he’s very blunt with people so will happily decline visitors for me but I’m always worried to upset them! Feel so silly!

Hopefully when shes here the hormones may settle down a little! Xx

[BogRollBOGOF]

I wanted to be left alone in the last week or two with DS2.
I was fine when he was born.

Part of it was that DS1 had a long labour over the weekend so it was hard not to let the news emerge and we had a lot of worried family after he took most of the weekend to actually arrive. I just wanted to keep my head down and be quiet when I could.

[novacaneforthepain]

The hormones might be worse for the first few weeks. But I feel you are completely entitled to decline guests especially during the pandemic.

You may feel you want to show off your DC. You may want to protect them at all costs. You just don't know. But people should be understanding if they care about you.

Congratulations and good luck

[Newlywed2]

Thank you everyone! Xx