Hi all
I just wanted to share a little bit of hope and say thank you to you all.
Around a year ago I finally gathered enough courage and asked my now ex 'D'P and 'D'F to my DD (17) to leave after 18 years together. We'd been together since we were16.
It was a horrible and at times abusive relationship, that had eaten away at my self worth and dragged us both (me &DD) down. I should have ended things long before I did but I didn't feel strong enough.
When I finally did, it felt like the biggest struggle and anything life could throw at me it did. I was convinced I couldn't do things on my own.
After lots of ups and downs, here I am, out the other side stronger and happier than I've ever been and DD is too.
Yesterday the last piece of the puzzle fell into place. I got confirmation that the house is now in my sole name, after buying him out with help from my family. This means I no longer have to be accountable to him nor deal with the many toxic members of his family who enabled him to behave the way he did.
He has no PR for DD and she's 18 next month anyway. I would never stop them seeing each other, as long as is safe for her to do so. She is also old enough to make her own choices and has decided to go low contact with him and his family. She seems so much happier now she has a calm home and happy mum. She started an apprenticeship this week and also passed her theory test.
I am finally free from him having any hold over me. Me and DD can move on with making new memories and living a happy life.
The hope part - For anyone struggling I just wanted to say hang on in there, you can do it, you are stronger than you think and it will all come good in the end. Everyone deserves to be happy and shouldn't put up with anything less, even if it takes you a while to get there.
The thank you part - Through everything that has been going on, I have been on mums net daily. Seeing how supportive everyone is of each other really helped me to see I wasn't on my own and could do this. It also makes me very grateful for what I have as many are less fortunate or in worse circumstances.
You all might not have known, but I felt that you were there every step of the way with me. I'm so pleased to have found this lovely community and will continue to be part of this, and in turn here for those as you were for me 