He snores like a warthog

[HammerandDrill]

How did my lovely, handsome partner turn into this? I need to talk to him again.

The different types of snoring:

1. Cycles of snore SNORE snore getting progressively louder like a road drill

1. He does that thing where there is silence... then SNORE! Makes me jump out of my skin.

It’s SO loud. How he doesn’t wake himself, I don’t know.

My sleep is suffering. I can’t have the windows open cos I’m sure the neighbours will hear.

I’m a bit shocked tbh. The weight has crept up and he has a big, round tummy, like he has stuffed a beach ball under his t-shirt. That’s another thing. He used to wear lovely shirts when we met. Now - I think because of the weight gain - he wears scruffy t-shirts, shorts and trainers. Like an overgrown toddler. He doesn’t seem to change his pants as often as he should

WTF has happened? How do I talk to him about it? I feel bad... if it was a man on here talking about his wife having “let herself go” he’d probably get slaughtered. But I am realising how much he has changed in the 3 years we’ve been together.

There HAS to be a discussion about the snoring (again) at the very least. It can’t be good for his health. He has a machine thing but never has it ‘on’ him.

Women with snorers/men who have let themselves go, how do you go about promoting change?

He may not feel sleepy, but apnoea will stop him getting enough of the deep cycle sleep the brain needs for concentration.

People with untreated bad apneoa are not safe to drive. He might think he is OK but the DVLA will take a different view. And the cpap machine will be logging how frequently it is used. So the consultant will know if he’s not using it properly.

While I agree with the first part of your post about sleep cycles, he says the DVLA didnt need him to do anything - I believe this. His CPAP machine doesn’t log anything. H needs to lose weight.

The onus is on your husband to inform the DVLA, not the consultant.

If the consultant feels it is necessary for your DP to have a CPAP machine (that costs the NHS £££) he jolly well needs to use it.

He needs to grow up and understand just how serious sleep apnoea can be.

I think you misunderstood - the DVLA said he didn’t need to do anything.

He actually bought the CPAP machine himself. He is actually taking it seriously - but needs to lose weight. We’ve had a talk today and he recognises this. He’s going to make an appointment to go back to the GP tomorrow & go back to the sleep clinic for reassessment,