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20 years ago.. What would you say? 🙂

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Littlebreadandbutterflies · 23/09/2020 10:01

Lighthearted and for fun 🙂

If you were to comment on this thread with things you might have been thinking 20 years ago, what would you say?

Mine would be something like:

Oh it's raining, I'll probably be in for breaktime this morning then. Hopefully there's no maths test this afternoon! I really need to practice my times tables more...

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Holothane · 23/09/2020 12:32

Wishing I’d died after my detached retina operation I spent 2000. Thinking I shouldn’t be here, a few weeks later I left work on medical grounds. Then had my cataract operation in the November.

Spied · 23/09/2020 12:35

Why oh why did I take a year out of my degree? Why? Just why?
I'm here in my hometown working this menial job for peanuts. Just why?
What made this a good idea?
I can't wait until sept 2001 so I can start my life again where I've paused it.

BonnieTellyLass · 23/09/2020 12:36

I was 10! Probably worried about what I would wear to the upcoming school disco and in anticipation of turning 11 in a few months so i can join youth club Grin

Biggest worries- moving house at age 10 from the only one i knew...we ended up moving 2x more before i was 15 and then 300miles away when I was 17 so that first tine age 10 was a worry but after that moving became like water off a ducks back

inappropriateraspberry · 23/09/2020 12:39

Wondering which student special club/bar I'd be going to tonight, and who I might see. Probably putting off some essay or other!

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Littlebreadandbutterflies · 23/09/2020 12:43

Enjoying reading a lot of these replies, especially the simple things like being excited to use a pen at school. 😊
Sorry to hear about the hard times of some. Like someone else mentioned, I hope the years after were kinder to you. 💐

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AriettyHomily · 23/09/2020 12:45

Thinking about skiving my next lecture to have a spliff in the field before it started raining. Oh so much simpler!

VivaDixie · 23/09/2020 12:49

Ah, September 2000. I was heading towards the end of a one year relationship, he had moved away with work and was starting to ghost me. At this point i would be sitting thinking 'is that dickhead going to ring me tonight or not - shall i dump him or see how he settles into his new job and see if we can make a LD relationship work?

I gave him too many chances and he ended up dumping me - god i wish i had got in there first!

Myfanwyprice · 23/09/2020 12:49

I had just got back from a lovely holiday in Tunisia, so I was probably at work, wishing I was still on holiday!

I was newly engaged, and very in love, but still living at home, so probably day dreaming about moving out - lived at home for another 2 years.

Been happily married for 16 years now, really miss the job I had back then - wish I could tell my younger self how good I had it there and to appreciate that time more.

workshyfop · 23/09/2020 12:50

I was lonely, isolated and scared. I’d moved in with a man I didn’t love just because he was a nice person. I was almost a year into a new job where I didn’t fit in at all and no-one talked to me. I had no friends or family near. I wouldn’t want to go back to that time.

Thecomfortador · 23/09/2020 12:51

Just started a new degree. Actually remember saying to someone, I wish I'd done English instead. It was a joke as I was terrified of technology which was a big part of the degree. Can't believe that was 20 years ago probably almost to the week.

I stuck it out though and powered through the fear.

kennelmaid · 23/09/2020 12:53

I was doing a job I loathed, in a senior well-paid role and considering leaving to join my DH in our business. It was very risky but I decided I couldn't stay in that job a minute longer and handed in my notice. Sadly, our business went bust a few years later, but that's another story.

52andblue · 23/09/2020 12:53

I was optimistic!
Studying a PostGrad course at Strathclyde University.
Planning my wedding.
(a Good Thing I didn't know what the next few years had in store tbh!)
Hey ho. Things can only get better (can never hear that in my mind without seeing bloody Tony Blair)

Mrs1989 · 23/09/2020 12:55

I had not long started secondary school where everything was very DIFFERENT! I was most likely walking around in a daze thinking “will I ever be able to find my way around this rabbit warren?” while trying not to draw the attention of the scary Year 11s who looked like they could crush me.

Frost1nMay · 23/09/2020 12:55

Working and living in Tokyo and having the TIME OF MY LIFE

onedayinthefuture · 23/09/2020 12:59

I'd be walking my dog in the woods. I used to work near home and be able to go home for lunch every day and go on lovely walks.

Holothane · 23/09/2020 13:03

Cocothefirst I know exactly how you felt charisma’s Eve was the worst wasn’t it? Hoping he wouldn’t ruin Christmas the christmases he ruined was awful. Hugs.

ChiaraRimini · 23/09/2020 13:09

Thanks to cocothefirst.
I was an SAHM with DS1, age 9 months, we had just got back from holiday in Portugal. It was a great time, I was loving being a new mum and DS was an easy baby, and all was well in my rship with xDH. Single mum to 3 nowadays!!

VioletCharlotte · 23/09/2020 13:17

20 years ago, DS1 was 11 months old and I was about to find out I was pregnant with DS2! I imagine I'd be asking 'can you see a line?' (Accompanied by photo of pregnancy test!) And asking questions like 'What's it like it have two under two?'

DS1 was a terrible sleeper so I would be asking for advice on how to get him to sleep in his own bed and stay asleep!

weebarra · 23/09/2020 13:32

DH (then just DP) and I were working in Sydney, living in Neutral Bay and working for a tech company. Having a fab time.

Hailtomyteeth · 23/09/2020 13:41

Raining so trapped in sweaty classroom with year nine - I hate wet breaks but at least I'm not standing in the yard. Teaching six of six periods today, with duty at lunchtime - if it's a wet lunch I'll have to try to contain year 11 till one o'clock then hare downstairs to meet with the Head at one on the dot. When will I get to the loo? Get a brew? Get something to eat? After 4, I suppose - damn, there's a Tutors' Meeting till 5.30. Then all the fuckers will go home and I can stay here and start my day's real work. If I bump into the Head of English she might give me a lift home about 10pm. Another thirteen years before breakdown.

Cocothefirst · 23/09/2020 15:11

Thanks for the lovely messages and flowers Flowers

Life now is lovely. I live in a lovely flat with a very cute kitty and I'm very happy.

FrenchFancie · 23/09/2020 15:28

Oh god, this wasn’t a good time. It was the start of a relationship turning toxic that plagued me for the next eight years, cost me my mental health and quite probably a decent undergraduate degree, an issue that still gets in the way of things now (blasted 2:2) If I could go back in time i’d Shake myself and about ‘run for the hills now while you still can!!’

edwinbear · 23/09/2020 15:52

Don't marry him. That's what I'd say to myself if I could.

Kittytheteapot · 23/09/2020 15:58

I was absolutely as frazzled as frazzled can be. 3 children aged from 4 down to 6 months. Recently moved to a new area. Knew hardly anyone, husband worked away from home a lot. I was near breaking point but my 4 year old was doing half days at school, my middle child was doing 2 mornings at playgroup and my lovely neighbour was about to offer to take my baby one morning a week (she was a registered childminder) which was going to give me 3 precious hours a week to myself which would save my sanity.

badlydrawnbear · 23/09/2020 16:32

It's Freshers' Week this week. I had just started uni and was depressed. It would be something about how terrified I was, how lonely I was, how much I missed my friends from school, how sad I was, how much I wanted to self-harm, how I didn't know if I could do this course but it was a vocational course that led to the only job I had ever wanted to do so what would I do otherwise (suicide felt like the only option).