How have you battled baby fever?!

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I have a 15month old DD, started to want a second child when she was around 8 months and me and my then DP agreed to start trying in November of this year. We split and I'm seeing someone new. I know it's way too early to have a baby with him and despite him desperately wanting one he knows it's too early as well, but I feel like thinking about having another is all I do at times! How do you battle this? Or will it just not go away until I eventually have another in a few years?

It must get not go away after a second, OP. Some people just keep on feeling this way baby after baby. Eventually it will pass. You're right to not pursue the idea of another baby now.

That's true, I hope that because I know I definitely want a second and possibly a third depending on how the seconds birth goes (tricky first labour, safe to have more but not sure I could risk it again if it goes wrong next time) that the feeling will go. I know that's probably not the case though!
Just so hard with how quickly my DD is growing into a toddler and yet seems so small still.

I always find borrowing someone else’s baby puts me right off. Especially if their nappy manages to leak all up their back inside their vest or they puke on you or they cry but won’t sleep.

Other than that, just enjoy what you have. At eight months old your child was still a small baby, and at 17 months she’s still so young. If you had a baby now you’d have less energy to enjoy toddlerhood, which is such a lovely stage when your baby starts to become their own person.

Oh yes I'd forgotten about "The Night" where she just screamed and screamed until I called my mum to come and help that's definitely put me off a little unfortunately I don't have any friends who are parents, otherwise I think I'd be getting my baby fix that way! I used to work with young children which helped a lot, it made me miss my own child but also made me glad I could hand some of them back, but since splitting with my ex I've had to give up work until the free hours kick in.

I planned other stuff that I wanted in place before a baby, kind of like pre-baby prep if that helps. So it didn't feel so much like oh that's forever away, but something that we were working towards.

And make sure your contraception isn't something that you have to remember at the point of intercourse - you're much more likely to make rash decisions when you're horny, it's probably mother nature's trick to get us to procreate even when our rational brains say no.

Maybe there are baby groups or classes near you or a breastfeeding/sling/whatever support group you can go to/start? That way you get to do something nice with your DD and maybe get a younger baby fix too!

May be difficult with covid I guess.

I'm waiting for the groups to start back up, there's a walking one on the one day I'm not free which is a pain but I'm definitely hoping to get back to groups even if it's just to talk to another adult sometimes 😂 I did check my app and it said I'm ovulating so that may be part of the reason I felt so baby crazy the last few days 😂

Yeah don't let yourself ovulate, that's dangerous :o on the pill ASAP!