Who do you talk to?

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I really need to talk to someone, sort through my thoughts, make a big decision.
I’ve realised that I present a certain face to people and it means I can’t truly be vulnerable with anyone. At all.
Who is your person to talk through the heavy things that weigh on your mind? If you have no one, how do you cope? I’m thinking about pro/con lists, therapists, and ringing up old friends I haven’t seen in years and asking them for their time. I have some really good friends, I just can’t talk about this with them, it’s too hard.

Nobody. I do talk to my stater but she interrupts a lot and is too 'look on the bright side' sometimes.

I find it very hard to let my guard down.

Nobody. It’s just me . I hate it.

My Mum, my husband. A few years back when I was very distressed about something I called the Samaritans a few times. It was good to talk to somebody who didn’t know me.

Depends. My go-to person is one particular friend who I've known for around 10 years. We talk about most stuff, and on a fairly deep level - I don't feel like I have to put on a front with her, and she doesn't with me. I can just be completely myself, and she is good at asking very insightful questions. I don't have any other friendships quite like it, though I have started allowing myself to show more vulnerability in other friendships now as I realise that everyone has stuff that they struggle with. It isn't something that comes naturally to me at all, but actually, I think other people are quite relieved when you let your guard drop a bit.

I also talk about some stuff to my DH, but definitely not everything. And I actually talk quite a lot to my dd, who is incredibly mature and actually surprisingly helpful because she knows me really well and gets how I think, but again, there are certain things that I wouldn't discuss with her.

I'm sorry for those who don't feel that they have anyone that they can talk to - that's a lonely place to be. I have felt like that in the past myself, but realise now that in my case, it was mainly because I put a big protective shell around me in order to avoid showing the slightest bit of vulnerability. I'm trying not to do that any more.

Brene Brown is good on this topic if anyone is interested.

My DH although I’m lucky to have a few good friends who I might choose depending on the problem.
Myself sometimes I’ve got quite a sensible inner dialogue and I can channel my mum what advice she might have given.

My husband
My mum
My dad
My aunt
A few close cousins
A few close friends.

I'm very lucky to have all of those ppl there if I need them and obviously I am there for them too.