I've been married to my husband for 7 years but been together for 20, we have two sons , one 13 and one 6 , my youngest is Autistic I feel like my husband picks and chooses when he wants to do the right thing for him and doesnt always want to meet his needs, when my husband is at work we have a brilliant routine everything is so settled and no meltdowns ,but that soon changes when my husband is home and he knows that but doesnt seem to care that he is causing my son distress , I feel like he doesn't put the effort in to learn about him and his needs ,everything I put in place becomes undone. My husband has also become quite a nasty person to be around , he shouts at us to fear us , during lockdown he picked up our tv and threw it across the room ,which he said I caused , he also has argued and slapped my oldest son and scared him to the point he ran out to my parents house , he now constantly raises his voice and threatens to scare us when we something he doesnt like or confront him . He calls me and my son names and then expects us to forget about it and spend time with him . He barely does anything round the house he says it's my job,and if he does get left to do something he gets my oldest to do it and says that's what kids are for . He still expects me to be intimate with him and wonders why I reject him ,he cant seem to see any wrong in what he does he thinks its us that are wrong. We have had another argument tonight which ended in him raising his voice so it would wake my youngest up deliberately and he also threatened to throw the tv again. I'm not sure what to do ,I'm constantly trying to fix our marriage but he,s trying his best to destroy it ,and stupidly I tell him to stay 😪, I think remembering good times and not being able to this alone are what make me stick around