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I've recently got back with my ex who is a great guy the reason we split up was due to both having mental health issues.
After we split I got back with the kids dad for 8 months. Fast forward to yesterday I did a pregnancy test and it was positive I think I'm about 6-8 weeks. It's my kids dads, I know this because the first time I had sex with great guy was last week.
I'm having a termination due to already having 3 children and the dad being a control freak.
I told great guy today, I thought it was best I was honest and open from the start. He didn't take it well, said he needs time to process it. I just said please don't let something that happened before we got together ruin us. My mum told me not to tell him but I just thought the best thing to do was that she honest. Now I'm not sure it was

To be honest, there is no point second guessing it. You’ve told him now, you can’t take it back.
If he decides to support you through the termination that he is a ‘great guy’.
If he doesn’t, then you’ve dodged a bullet.

He does need time to process it, give him a little while then have a discussion, explain that you will need a bit of support after the procedure both mentally and physically.

Thanks for replying @RunningFromInsanity, I was just trying to do the right thing but as usual it's fucked to things up

I think, too, that it might be a blessing in disguise. If he does not support you through this, then what can you expect in 10 or 20 years?

Yeah I suppose so, he's waiting for a diagnosis of bi polar and I've told him I'll stand by him no matter what so to have him behave like this is a bit of a kick in the teeth