Want to leave husband

[Thatgirlcat]

Hi everyone,

I've been wanting to leave my husband for a while now, my only concern is we are due to put a motgage application through in mid October. Is there a way to back out without him getting suspicious? Also I can't drive yet, so if we did split up I wouldn't be able to get to work as he normally takes me. The area where we live is very isolated with no public transport and my family live far away. Please can someone help me? I'm so miserable and I don't want to get myself stuck with a mortgage with someone I don't want to be with 😞 thanks for any comments

Could you look into renting somewhere nearer your work? Do you have any savings for a rental deposit? Could you stay with a friend or colleague for a few weeks until you get sorted out? Do you have kids? If you're in an abusive situation womens aid may be able to help.

Hey,

I have two young children and we are council tenants, so the rent is quite cheap. I wouldn't be able to afford the rent where my work is unfortunately. I have around 4k in savings which was toward the new house, but I was planning on using this for a car and/or driving lessons. My husband isn't abusive, but I'm worried if he finds out I want to leave he will threatene with taking the children away from me.

Can you convince him that you want to wait until next year to think about a mortgage and house buying because nobody knows what going to happen with the housing market at the moment? It's not a solution but may buy you some time?
Also get some financial and legal advice about what your options are when you leave. You need to be as prepared as possible. Good luck

There is a car share app, I don't know the name of it but you may be able to find a car share to work through it.

@carbhunter we were supposed to be buying a new build home, we've chosen all the fixtures etc and I feel like if I tell him we should wait he will defo feel something is up. I guess I don't really have any other options atm though.

Thank you all for you help and in put, I'm really stressing out about this. I'm only 25 and have 2 young children, I just want to do what's right for them, which is definitely not staying in an unhappy marriage with their dad.

Could you say something like ‘with all this uncertainty (Covid and Brexit) I think it’s best to wait till spring to buy. I know We’ve put lots of time into choosing the fittings etc but I’m getting cold feet I’m afraid’ . Buy yourself some time to get your ducks in a row.

@Danetobe that sounds believable I could use that, thank you. And gives me time to sort out my driving and swap housing if needed.

I could never come up with this stuff without all of you, thank you so much for all your help.