I am a single mum and live with my 20 year old son, we get along great, does his share of the housework and leaves the bathroom clean/tidy. His room is untidy but I leave him to that, he sorts it when he’s ready and it doesn’t affect me. He goes out working and is quite self-sufficient.
My OH (4 yrs) also has a 20 year old son, he’s a nice enough boy but bone idle, (OH’s words), he sits in his room pretty much 24/7 gaming, (has done for the last year) he might go out once a week to meet friends, that’s about it, he’s happy doing that. His bedroom is rancid, bathroom is awful when he’s been in, wet towels lying about, floor wet through, toilet’s a mess, basically lives like a slob. He spends over half hour on the loo on his phone, OH has to yell him out of there regularly. OH does admit he’s been too soft with him and struggles now. Just to say he should be working, wasn't before lock down and no interest to either. OH too soft again.
So, my issue … me and OH have just bought a house and are all moving in together. The 2 boys will have the top floor which has a bedroom each and a shared bathroom. How do I set up from the start that we all muck in equally with running the house and keep communal areas tidy and clean. Would you have a rota where you each have your own daily/weekly chores, (seems a bit ott that?), how would you set it up?
I need to set this up from the get go but don’t want to come down too hard and make it feel like I’m being a bossy cow.