Dd 4 became naughty since starting school?

[WaffleDogg20]

I’m at breaking point with my dd who turned 4 in July. She started school a few weeks ago and literally the day after she has turned into this awful child. Screaming, hitting, throwing things and being rude. She says she is good at school Because she doesn’t want to be on the cloud.

It doesn’t help that there is a park right next to the school so every morning and after school we have temper tantrums about wanting to go, and when we do go about going home! It’s so embarrassing.

We’ve not been able to do anything as a family because she’s so explosive atm 🙃🙈😩

She'll be absolutely exhausted, it will take a month or two for her to settle.
Try taking a snack to pick up with you for distraction and let her chill out when she gets home. They're busy from the second they get into school, and learning is tiring, even when it's learning through play.

Mine were both like that, and I'm getting tired preteen strops now the eldest has just started secondary.

I agree with DinosApple. Full time school is a lot for a four year old and they get very tired. There's also a lot of sitting and having to listen, which they're not so used to. It's a big change. It doesn't mean that she's an awful child.

I agree about taking a snack or drink at pick-up time.

I'd also suggest having a break from any other after school activities/classes (if they still exist). School is enough for at least the first term.

Yup, exhausted not naughty. That first term is really hard. It gets easier after xmas as their stamina increases.

@DinosApple my ds has just started secondary and its reminding me of when he started primary. Exhausted, glassy eyed, tearful and just wants to crash out after school.

COmpletely normal.

All her emotional and intellectual resources are going into getting through the day being good and following the rules.

Then she leaves and she is hungry and exhausted and has no energy at all to do anything but that is ok because she is in her safe space of home where she can relax and not have to be in control