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How long after someone passes away

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Babyiwantabump · 17/09/2020 14:43

Are wills normally finalised and relatives can move into the property?

I’m just asking because my neighbour passed recently . Funeral was Tuesday and now the family seems to be moving themselves in!

Doesn’t seem right to me? I would have thought it would take a while to get things sorted? Are they even allowed to do something like that?

Just wondering really as have never dealt with anything like this so not aware of time frames .

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HilaryBriss · 17/09/2020 15:52

I guess it depends. If the will left the estate or the house to one person, then I can't see an issue with them moving in straight away.

Even if split between siblings or something, the others could have agreed that this person could move in now.

TheBeesKnee · 17/09/2020 15:54

Maybe they're moving in to protect the house in case someone tries to break in?

Flamingolingo · 17/09/2020 15:56

Probate usually takes a few months, but I don’t think the house has to stand empty.

Bells3032 · 17/09/2020 15:57

Legally it can takes months to sort out probate and the property will remain in the estate. But if all the beneficeries agree nothing to stop someone moving in straight away. Just can't sell it in that time and if rented the income will go into the estate.

lughnasadh · 17/09/2020 16:01

What's wrong with it?

Did the person who died even own the house? Maybe it belonged to the people there now.

DidoAtTheLido · 17/09/2020 16:04

Well I will have to move into my parents’ house and aunt’s house when the time comes to deal with house clearance, organising estate agents, maybe doing viewings, disbursing items left to different people, selling furniture, maintaining the garden etc.

I am the executor and live several hours away.

I hope the neighbours won’t be curtain twitching and questioning my actions on the internet while I am dealing with the saddest job.

Oh, and maybe the family already own the house? Maybe it was transferred years ago, or maybe they bought it for their relative to live in.

Why are you speculating in their business?

DidoAtTheLido · 17/09/2020 16:06

Doesn’t seem right to me? I would have thought it would take a while to get things sorted? Are they even allowed to do something like that

God, I would be so angry to think neighbours were being so nosey and judgey if I was in my deceased parents’ house.

FirstOfficerDouglas · 17/09/2020 16:17

My friend moved into his parents' house after his father went into into care.

Didn't have PoA so couldn't sell the property. The grass was growing waist high, there had been a break in to the shed (tools stolen), the heating had been left on - it would have been difficult to manage from a distance and no-one had the time.

He paid the bills, tended the garden, did the maintenance (a serious water leak at one point,) and improved security. Suited him, suited his siblings who really could not be bothered and saved the estate a fortune when the father actually died.

pooopypants · 17/09/2020 16:22

What does this even have to do with you OP, are you in the will or just sticky beaking? Do you know all the ins and outs of the will and what needs sorting with the estate? Maybe they had pets that need caring for? Perhaps their rental agreement had come to an end and it made more sense to let it lapse and move in. Either way - MYOB.

VanillaSpiceCandle · 17/09/2020 16:27

Jesus what’s with the replies. There would be no topics at all if everyone minded their own business! It’s ok to wonder about things.

I’d wonder the same especially if I’d not seen the people visiting previously. Just curiosity.

Mosaic123 · 17/09/2020 16:50

Empty property insurance is very expensive.

2bazookas · 17/09/2020 16:57

You're being ridiculous.

When someone gets old then ill then dies they sometimes leave behind the effects of longterm domestic decline. Accumulated for years. But even a few months worth of rotting food, soiled bedding and carpets, furniture; dirty laundry etc all needs to be sorted and dumped. Sometimes, it takes days or weeks just to sift through a lifetime of papers and full drawers, to find the Will.
If theres a Will and the executor is family, who else do you think is going to get stuck in and sort through every drawer, papers, wardrobe, boxes in the loft, to find the stuff an Executor must deal with. Making a list of all the services, memberships, accounts and contacts that need to be notified, cancelled, paid etc. Not to mention the person's lifetime accumulation of old letters, certificates, books, photographs, cards, hobbies and interests.

       I hope you've made your Will, because you obviously have no grasp of how much work there will be clearing up your lifetime of stuff.
tara66 · 17/09/2020 17:00

Unless the are there illegally there is no point in the relatives waiting for anything in particular. They probably need to deal with the matter asap and why not?

megletthesecond · 17/09/2020 17:05

They're possibly keeping it ticking over until sold.
My family live on the coast and a neighbours house has relatives living in it while it's waiting to be sold, although apparently they've also decided to house hunt locally. These things take ages to sort out.

vanilla I always wonder about things too. Life's too short not to ponder stuff.

DidoAtTheLido · 17/09/2020 17:19

Vanilla because she has taken it upon herself to decide it isn’t quite right’ and wonder if they are ‘allowed’.

Saying hello and offering condolences might be many people’s thoughts.

Babyiwantabump · 17/09/2020 18:38

I was just wondering because they have moved in 2 days after the funeral .

It just seems a bit odd to me that someone would jump into someone else’s house that quickly?

Even as a matter of respect or whatever .

If my dad died I wouldn’t be moving myself in 2 days after the funeral .

For what it’s worth they are not even a close relative . The neighbour had no children himself , never married . No siblings . I have met these relatives before .

Surely there’s no harm in wondering these things when you haven’t been through it yourself .

And surely the house would need to go to probate etc?

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Babyiwantabump · 17/09/2020 18:39

Neighbour passed 2 weeks ago.

I just feel a bit uneasy about it . Like it’s a bit disrespectful. Don’t know why 🤷🏻‍♀️

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BreconBeBuggered · 17/09/2020 18:47

Posts about people diving in to the deceased's possessions and helping themselves are rife on here, so I don't know why OP's getting a hard time. The relatives in this case may be acting legitimately, but on the other hand they might be rapacious chancers. Don't know what you could do about it other than offer condolences, though.

pooopypants · 18/09/2020 16:34

Probate would be needed, I believe, if no will was left.

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